Surprise surprise

posted September 12th, 2023 at 6:04 PM

Nothing shocks and angers a manipulative person more than when the target of their abuse stops falling for the tactics. It took me way too long (20+ years!) to really accept that they did not deserve the benefit of the doubt that I always allowed them, but I finally learned. So now their sad face and their protestations of confusion, ignorance, and innocence leave me cold. I know exactly what they’re doing and why. I know it’s nothing but a ruse to lure me into engaging with them so they can employ the same tactics as always. To try to confuse me and make me doubt my own perceptions. They didn’t change, but I did. Once you’ve really seen the reality, you can’t un-see it. Life is so much more peaceful now.

4 Comments

Find new friends or turn them off

Sep 14, 2023 at 8:34pm

It doesn't sound like the two of you have any contact with each other and I'm sure you have your reasons for that. I don't know from where or from who you get your information about them from but if you have friends that know both of you and you're getting unwanted proxy contact then maybe you just need new friends or at least have a talk with them and give them the ultimatum. If those friends choose them over you then those wouldn't really be the kind of friends you should want in your life anyway.

Secondly, if you're FB stalking them and they somehow know that you are and they know that for some reason you've been choosing to make your existence revolve around watching them then I think you need to think about the way you've been thinking. STOP IT! Quit watching them and change the channel. You have that power!

Dr. Real

Sep 15, 2023 at 11:32am

The tip of an ice burg could never tell the full story of the whole ice burg, so stalking & judging other people through their socials only reveals what's lacking in your own life. So Learn to recognize that and focus on your own healing journey instead.

@find new friends

Sep 15, 2023 at 9:48pm

Huh? I think you’re mistaking my post with another situation because what I’m talking about isn’t even close to this.

Onwards and Upwards

Sep 16, 2023 at 12:25pm

Hey there! I’m really sorry you had to go through all this. Sadly, there are a lot of reprehensible people out there. Good on you for calling them out and letting them know that you no longer accept any of their poison.