Lonely gal

I had a fleury bad/good/bad/good relationships back to back all through my 20s, funnelling all of my youthful energy in to men and romantic relationships instead of in to my self. The last three years I've spent single, I was able to discover myself and learn to enjoy who I actually am. I have friends and family in my life, but I have this feeling of loneliness humming in the background. I miss intimacy, having inside jokes, cuddling, eating together, sleeping together. I miss hugging. I miss cooking for two, I miss having someone to do. I miss being in love.

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I was a lonely guy

Oct 3, 2023 at 2:02pm

and experienced much of what you are now feeling. I went through a series of dysfunctional relationships but around age 40 I started maturing my brain and heart cortexes and took an intentional time-out from 'skirt chasing.' After enduring these intentional lonely times I had a strange dream of a woman and one week later she walked into my place of employment. We've now been together 30 years and hey! We are human and have to talk about our human issues from time to time. But happy to say we've not had one fight and both of us feel blessed in our marriage.

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Look on the bright side

Oct 3, 2023 at 7:55pm

I have never been on a date. I have never been in a relationship. You know how some people complain about being "friendzoned?" Well, the opposite sex has treated me like I'm radioactive for as far back as I can remember. They want nothing to do with me. I don't have friends and family in my life. The only "friends" I have ever had were people who found themselves at the bottom of the social ladder with me and thus associated with me by default. They were always looking over my shoulder for someone better to be with and when they had the chance, they dropped me in a flash. I have one sibling. I haven't spoken to her in years and I am a stranger to her kids. I spent my 20's funneling (more like wasting) my youthful energy on dead-end jobs and also a worthless Bachelor's degree that's gotten me nowhere.
I've never experienced intimacy, cuddling or any of the other romantic things you mentioned. So look on the bright side OP, though you're not currently in a relationship, you at least got the chance to experience them. Many of us do not. And you have other good things in your life such as close friends and family. Again, many of us do not. I've never been in love and I'm resigned to the fact that I never will.
This is corny but I think the old saying is true: "better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all."

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Not romantically lonely here, but…

Oct 4, 2023 at 8:13am

Listen hun, you can find people to date/love all through life because there are single people in every decade of life. Ignore the assholes on here who try to make it sound like women have some kind of “best before” date. Sure, we eventually aren’t able to have kids anymore (& what sweet freedom that is!) but that doesn’t mean you can’t/won’t be able to find someone to love (or date casually). Love doesn’t just happen to the young/beautiful people. And if you’re truly beautiful on the INSIDE and fun to be around and open to meeting different people, the world is your oyster!
Look after yourself (value yourself) and others will value you too.
In the meantime you could get a pet (dog, cat, etc) to cuddle with. Please check the SPCA or a city pound.

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@Not romantically

Oct 8, 2023 at 11:41am

So, the OP should become a cougar, get a cat, and forget about having children. Got it.

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Bitey

Nov 11, 2023 at 1:40pm

I feel the same. In my 50's now, was common-law married for 5 years in my early 30's. I have had about 2 proper dates since we spit, and the last one was almost 9 years ago now. I can't even get any response from ladies who I have known for a while, If I text them, they will not reply, even to decline an invitation to go do something. It's like I don't exist...... Oh well, life is never fair to anyone though!

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