What worked for you?

posted November 10th, 2023 at 8:15 PM

Dating sites have pleasantly changed a lot, yet I still struggle to stay on them for more than 24 hours before I delete them. Regular group outings might work for me if I could muster the courage to get myself out there, yet it’s challenging to feel worthy of love. That’s an inside job I’m not sure how to broach. With each profile I come across I ask myself, does he look genuinely happy, could I get off staring into those loving eyes, and, would this person even be attracted to me? There’s so much more to attraction than this. Trust, safety, mutual respect, communication, boundaries, values, reflection. I feel overwhelmed and starved.

4 Comments

In person

Nov 14, 2023 at 2:17pm

Live in person meet ups whether one on one or in a group setting are the only way to go. How else are you able to truly tell if you have chemistry with someone? Certainly not online.

What Worked For Me

Nov 14, 2023 at 9:11pm

Is I went to where I was appreciated, and not ignored.
In other words- left Vancouver.

Do not fuck up i did

Nov 15, 2023 at 2:55am

No where to understanding did I arrive!

I only have eyes for you

Nov 16, 2023 at 5:58am

First off, you are worthy of love. Whether or not that's reciprocated is a different issue. Have some realistic standards from your list. Most guys with a decent head on their shoulders would get a few but not all, which are your priorities? If its all in the eyes for you, don't base it off a photo. See someone for their true self by actually looking them in the eyes, you'll know when the energy flows!
I always have a RBF or Stoic look but when I see you see me seeing you, it changes real quick.