Confused

I recently went to a bar with several of my friends and could not understand why we were all single. We are all beautiful, educated, and intelligent women in our 30's. Any man would be lucky to have us. The only men that approach us are the type that only want a quick "hookup" but not a lasting relationship. Seriously where are the quality men in Vancouver. I am sick of being single and spending my Friday nights watching Netflix and eating leftovers.

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Timothy Chapeau

Dec 5, 2023 at 10:10am

"Any man would be lucky to have us." That might be the problem. How do you project yourselves? Like entitled urbanistas? What kind of energy are you putting out there? Do you want someone to fulfill your expectations or sweep you off your feet? What are your expectations? Sincerely though, good luck

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There's still good people out there

Dec 5, 2023 at 12:28pm

And they're feeling the same social isolation as yourself. However you will rarely or never find them in alcohol dens. Good folks gravitate to volunteer work where people help themselves thru helping others. So don't give up, just fine-tune your life strategies.

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Simply Put

Dec 5, 2023 at 2:14pm

Both your first and last sentences answer your question.

That,and BC's Common Law rules- why would I date you and end up having to write you a huge cheque when you leave for supposedly greener pastures?

If you want real uncensored answers go on Reddit or City data

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I can tell you

Dec 5, 2023 at 7:17pm

I have a job that pays $130,000 a year and I'm 37. I haven't had time to date because I've concentrated on school and work. I'm starting my own business on the side.

That's where we are, or we are already married. I dress well, work out regularly, but I can't get a date. I'm 5'10, balding, and and don't own a house. I wonder if these are holding me back.

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Anonymous

Dec 5, 2023 at 8:26pm

Not speaking for everyone, only myself, but the reason I’m not interested any longer is it’s just not worth it anymore. Too much risk of being hung out to dry on false claims of this or that, tired of hearing how bad men are, no interest in trying to thread that needle on being man enough to be interesting but not so much man that I’m labelled misogynistic.

Having to isolate during the pandemic opened my eyes to how it could be without all those hassles and risks and it’s just far more appealing. I have my friends, my job and my hobbies. That’s enough.

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Not Sure What The Problem Is

Dec 5, 2023 at 9:47pm

For the last 20+ years women have been telling guys not to approach them in public-and that they are all strong,independent, and don't need no man.

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@OP

Dec 5, 2023 at 10:23pm

If you honestly want to know the answer to your question- just search on You Tube something like: why men don't approach, men stopped approaching women, etc.

There you will find the answers.

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Oh girl! It’s

Dec 6, 2023 at 2:17am

the usual story of Vancouver!! Been like that forever. I think it’s because there is such a superficial hookup culture here and tons of guys who are a bit transient and cannot really afford to provide so they just look for quick sex. It’s sad. But look on the bright side, climate change and war will probably kill us all soon and if you haven’t procreated then you will have an easier time dealing!!

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Oh no

Dec 6, 2023 at 7:27am

This type of post is just an invitation to all the guys who blame women for everything that’s not going well for them. Cue the incel misogynists comments - (insert eye roll here)

lucky

Dec 6, 2023 at 8:02am

Any man would be lucky to have us implies that you and all your friends are above any man. It gets colder the higher you climb.

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