Chills

Listening to someone I’ve known for a long time talking about relationships gave me a cold chill. Like I’d never really understood how someone could be so completely detached from other people, almost like they have no soul. He’s either a very good actor or he really is lacking in any ability to attach to other people. The way he talked about this supposed friend of his that he’s known for over 40 years just gave me the creeps. They did something that annoyed him so he just stopped speaking to them completely without even trying to discuss it. I said it sounded like a pretty minor thing and maybe he should just talk to them about it, but he just said that he felt disrespected so that was it. But he’s always saying everyone disrespects him and I think he just expects people to treat him like he’s special no matter what, and he can’t even recognize that he treats others like they owe him something all the time which is really disrespectful. So I just sat and listened to him and inside I was kind of repulsed. It was like seeing something really creepy like the mask slipped.

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It's not the people who detach you need to worry about.

Jan 19, 2024 at 12:58pm

It's the ones who won't leave you alone, even if you want them to.

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compatibility

Jan 19, 2024 at 2:48pm

It seems pretty clear that you don't like him at all, so end the friendship and move on. Find people that you are compatible with and let him do the same. He is under no obligation to stay friends with a 3rd party just because it makes YOU comfortable. Let go. Easy.

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@OP

Jan 22, 2024 at 12:34am

You don't know if that "pretty minor thing" was the last straw, the culmination of years of stuff like that.

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@compatibility

Jan 22, 2024 at 6:18pm

It’s not that we’re friends really because I’ve known him through another friend and not like we’re close or anything. I’ve heard him talk about other people many times when we’re all hanging out and he’s the kind of guy that tells other people what to do a lot so I thought it was ironic that he got so mad because of someone else telling him something. He’s a good friend of someone I’m close to but mostly I’m just kind of listening and not part of their conversation. This time I spoke up because it seemed like such a strange way to act with someone he said he was so close with. It was cold.

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@It’s

Jan 22, 2024 at 11:55pm

Don’t worry honey, he’ll give up eventually or fall in love with another woman or man. They always do.

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Anonymous

Jan 24, 2024 at 2:40am

Listen to your gut. That’s your instincts kicking in. If this person gives you the creeps and you feel repulsed, stay away from them.

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Forgot to leave a name earlier

Jan 24, 2024 at 2:44am

Sorry, I left a comment earlier but forgot to add a name - I’m the person who said to listen to your instincts. Repulsion is a real sign that your instincts are warning you away from someone. We gaslight ourselves into ignoring it, or others do, and then there is trouble. Trust yourself and steer well clear of this person, even as an acquaintance.

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