I think it's lost

I got rejected. In my head at least, this was THE relationship for me. The rejection was crushing. Absolutely devasting. So I didn't get over it. I really thought I would get over it eventually... I mean that is what a normal person does, right? I tried the whole being with others to forget the 'one' thing, but after a decade or so instead my capacity to feel just faded. Maybe it's just aging as well, and it has allowed me to focus more on work and creative pursuits, and I still sometimes check on the person (virtually), but it feels like it's too late for my dream.

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Anonymous

Feb 8, 2024 at 8:57am

its never too late...

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@ it feels like it's too late for my dream

Feb 8, 2024 at 2:45pm

Its never to late for our good dreams to manifest. As the great philosopher/Dr. Carl Jung taught: "No matter how isolated you are and how lonely you feel, if you do your work truly and conscientiously, unknown friends will come and seek you." Suggest you find the a group, a sport, even a church attended by nice people and meet new friends .... Be well

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A Gorilla

Feb 8, 2024 at 3:24pm

Tell them how you feel!

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Too late for what?

Feb 8, 2024 at 4:11pm

If your dream is just to be with that one person, then yes, I’d say that that’s not going to happen. But if it’s a dream to find another person to connect with, then I’d say keep yourself open to possibilities. I know that aging has definitely taken its toll on me as well, but in spite of my own traumatic relationship that I’m healing from, I still believe that there’s hope for love in my future. Don’t give up!

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Find and

Feb 9, 2024 at 12:19am

Find and write them. There's no point in stalking them from afar. Being passive doesn't solve problems. Express how you feel and what they mean to you, and leave the ball in your court. If they reply negatively, then take the answer and move on. If positive/affirmative, then take action. It's hard as hell to do, but you'll feel relief. Just the very sense of getting it off your chest does wonders. I once told someone I loved them more than anything in this world, and they rejected me because the conditions weren't right. I waited years, said it again, and this time they abandoned me because a few relationships in between led them to fear love, they couldn't handle romance. I therefore threw in the towel. But I nevertheless was happy I split my heart to them; I've no regrets. Life goes on, but you can't know until you try. Good luck.

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Bewitched bemused betrayed and bewildered

Feb 9, 2024 at 2:14am

Narcissists are like emotional energy vampires. Hopefully you've learned to recognize the red flags.

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Move on already

Feb 12, 2024 at 9:30am

Uhhh she's married with two kids and a husband who loves her so yes forget about it and move on

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Look inward

Feb 17, 2024 at 8:34pm

It was the best relationship FOR YOU but it apparently wasn't the best FOR THEM. Have you learned things about yourself that you're working on? Did you do any reflection after the breakup? Did you.truly love this person or just the things they provided, love the things that came with them? Social life, maybe a home, hobby or purpose? These are questions to ask yourself I'm not making any assumptions! But it's more often than not the person sitting back and enjoying the relationship, feet up on the dashboard, are often the ones shocked when it ends. Instead of thinking "this is what I want in a relationship" think "what do I offer to deserve what I want in a relationship". Food for thought!! Has helped me change my life <3 good luck

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