People think I shouldn’t do this but

but I’m 22 and I’m dating a 48 year old man. Its the best relationship I have ever been in and I have never felt so loved and appreciated. The looks we get in public always bother me though, the subtly passive aggressive comments get to me. People don’t know my life, they don’t know my story. Maybe I’ll feel differently in the future but my mistakes are mine to make, and if I am old enough to make my own decisions in every other realm of my life then why does anyone feel the need to comment on my romantic choices? If it hurts me in the future then it’s my pain to endure anyway, I don’t need society to save me from mistakes I may or may not make. Please, dear god, keep your comments and your stares to yourself.

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Post Malone Bolony

Feb 6, 2024 at 9:33am

Now let's all wait for the downvotes & negative comments lol

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Congratulations

Feb 6, 2024 at 12:17pm

It's hard enought to find love in this world. If you've found it, way to go. To hell with anyone who judges that. Be happy!

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Anonymous

Feb 6, 2024 at 2:10pm

You are an adult, and if others are jealous at your relationship that is a compliment.

You see, people are incredibly mean spirited when it comes to others having a good time.

Enjoy your life, any way you like.

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Polar-eyezing

Feb 6, 2024 at 11:14pm

Its polarizing, what more do you expect from something people don't see everyday?
Based on this post, it sounds like its not the best relationship ever, if you're coming here to confess. The judgement is bothering you even though you choose to dismiss it. Its a risk/reward, you just have to choose which one you want more.

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Anonymous

Feb 7, 2024 at 6:01am

It's your life. No one else can live it for you. Live it with who you love without regret. I think at the end of life you'll know you did what was most important which few people out there actually do. Most people only hook up and stay with someone due to presure from family, friends, and society. They're either miserable or content but never truly happy with the relationship.

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Age gaps...

Feb 7, 2024 at 12:44pm

in relationships are certainly a thing in today's society. I fully support consenting adults to do as they please, however a couple things come to mind. Do you connect culturally? Do you enjoy the same music, film, tv, movies, books etc.? do your politics align? Is it about money? Is it a sugar daddy type vibe? There are tradeoffs in every relationship dynamic. Maybe none of the above matters to you.

I certainly connect culturally with those closer to my own age, but men obviously find younger women appealing. It's a tale as old as time really.

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Cool story

Feb 7, 2024 at 10:18pm

its giving Hugh Hefner
with the age and the love and the hate

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Okay but

Feb 9, 2024 at 5:29pm

The reason people are giving concerning glances your way likely has nothing to do with jealousy, but just basic concern. I know you believe with everything in your head and heart that you’re a grown adult and know exactly what you want and what you’re doing. But unfortunately you’d be wrong. It’s now known that the human brain isn’t considered to be fully developed until age 25, meaning it’s far more likely that we will make decisions that aren’t necessarily the best for us when we’re very young., because we don’t have the judgment capacity at that age. Virtually every older adult would be able to tell you about the bad decisions we made when we were your age. Technically you’re an adult, but you lack a great deal in experience and maturity, whether you want to believe that or not. My concern for you is that you’re being taken advantage of by this man who has a lifetime of knowledge and experience behind him that has taught him things you just cannot know at your age. He knows exactly how to manipulate you. This means that there’s a giant power imbalance in your relationship. The only thing you are giving him is validation because of your physical appearance. He feels like a big man because a young woman chooses to be with him. I’m not saying there’s nothing else about your relationship, but let’s face it, normal and well adjusted 48 year old men aren’t interested in dating women your age unless it’s just for the physical. Men that want to only date such young women are very often the ones who are interested in power and control, because they can’t handle being with a woman who has achieved her own power. I don’t judge you for being in this relationship, but I sure do judge him.

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