They do know

I used to make excuses for my ex’s bad behaviour. I used to think maybe he just didn’t understand how it was hurting me and if I could just explain it to him he’d stop. But no matter how many times I explained nothing changed. My therapist made me see things more clearly when she said that if someone only behaves in certain ways when you’re alone with them, they know exactly what they’re doing. It was a lightbulb moment for me. If they know enough to hide it, they know that what they’re doing is wrong, so abusing you is a CHOICE.

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Feb 13, 2024 at 10:14am

What's also a choice? Staying with them for months and years.

That's how I vet women- if they demand I pay for everything,don't appreciate anything, and /or talk badly to me.... I don't even ask them to stop. They are gone in a few days.
If they're trying to see how much they can get away with- they know exactly what they're doing.

Play stupid games...

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over and over

Feb 13, 2024 at 2:29pm

the amount of confessions that all men are abusive, and it's every ex that was at fault for everything seems immature.

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Was that…

Feb 13, 2024 at 7:09pm

A little Freudian Slip at the end?!?

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Dr. Real

Feb 13, 2024 at 10:43pm

If you moving on hurt you? I'm sorry.. but it's been over a decade+ ago. So please let it go. And try make the most of the situationship, you have now.

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Worth every penny!

Feb 14, 2024 at 1:28am

A good therapist will change your life! Our marriage counsellor told me, in private
1) you are married to a narcissist
2) they get worse with age
3) you can’t fix them
4) “all you need now is an exit strategy!”

I was gobsmacked, but grateful. I then researched it, and learned a ton. Modern therapists rock!

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@Dr. Real

Feb 14, 2024 at 11:38am

Exactly

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Laughing out loud

Feb 14, 2024 at 4:44pm

Op here. Funny how many assumptions are being made from my little post. No, there’s no Freudian slip. No, this has nothing to do with something that happened 10 years ago. No, I didn’t say all men are abusive but hey, if you’re triggered maybe you think I’m talking about you? If so, why might you think that? And as far as that first comment go, it’s hardly know where to start except to say whoever gets dumped by you should consider themselves very lucky because they obviously dodged a bullet.

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Re: over and over

Feb 17, 2024 at 11:29pm

No kidding. Of course, it’s juvenile. But If you think that’s bad, remember all those confessions written by the same dude that messages people on social media whom they don’t like just to get a reaction out of them? If that’s not immature, I don’t know what is.

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