I feel lost

I don't know what to do he means everything to me . My brain tells me to stop trying and my heart screams not too. He said he loved me then disappears. I don't know what to make of the situation. Do I wait or leave. I've never loved someone as much as I do him. I tried to have dinner with someone else after he distanced himself . But all I could think about was him. It's always only him

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Not so fun fact:

Mar 28, 2024 at 9:38am

You're addicted to his approval because of his dismissal. If you've any respect for yourself a couple weeks without any contact will be enough of a head shake for you to stop romanticizing an idea that was never really there. You deserve better so act like it! Cut him off. No one is looking out for our best interest, it's up to us (women) to stop the cycle of abuse we allow to happen. Take control of the only thing you have control of (your actions).

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@ Not so fun

Apr 5, 2024 at 3:21am

Absolutely correct, except it often takes a lot longer than 2 weeks if a person is trauma bonded. Like any abusive relationship, telling someone to “just leave” is not helpful. There are many reasons why someone finds themselves in this type of relationship in the first place, and often it’s because that person didn’t start out showing their true self. Changes can be so insidious that by the time you realize you’re in trouble, you’re already in love with them. People like him can make their victims believe that they’re the problem. I agree with everything you said except for the “allowing” part, because that’s too much like victim shaming. Sometimes there really is a victim and a perpetrator.

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