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The guilt of being an unplanned pregnancy, of throwing a wrench into people's lives through no fault of your own. Thirty-five years and three more children later, my parent's marriage isn't horrible, but it isn't great either. They love one another but the marriage is dysfunctional, according to both of them. I sometimes wonder what their lives would've been like if I hadn't appeared. I'm confident they would've gone on to marry other people.

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Could'a should'a woud'a

Mar 20, 2024 at 10:46am

Who knows? The best I know (and I certainly don't know-it-all) is to simply be a good person. Be good to yourself and be good to others and have a good life.

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"I could have married someone else!"

Mar 20, 2024 at 1:02pm

I recall my mom saying this to my dad at the dinner table when I was a child. I just kept my head down and continued eating but I remembered. Over 50 years later they're still married. So what? It's their marriage, not mine.

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Unplanned…

Mar 21, 2024 at 9:38pm

…doesn’t mean unloved. Lots of people are the result of unplanned pregnancies. I think you might be misinterpreting the situation or maybe overthinking it a little? I had an unplanned pregnancy and I kept the baby. I love this child with all my heart, every bit as much as the ones that were planned.

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