“Get over it”

It seems to me that the people who are so ready to tell someone that they need to get over it or forget about it, are often the ones who caused the problem in the first place. Or they benefited from a situation where the other person was harmed. I understand that anger can be destructive, but without it things rarely change. When someone is raised in a society where only certain people are socially allowed to be angry, and if they’re told they’re crazy for fighting against discrimination or subjugation, it’s pretty normal for them to have a lot of resentment. Until a person can truly acknowledge the privilege they’ve been granted purely by their physical manifestation, I don’t think they have the right to tell someone who hasn’t had that privilege not to be angry and to just get over it.

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When you argue with a fool, there are two people arguing.

Apr 23, 2024 at 4:16pm

"Weak people revenge. Strong people forgive. Intelligent people ignore." -- Albert Einstein

Anonymous

Apr 23, 2024 at 5:52pm

Are these angry people abusing someone and blaming someone unrelated to their problems? there is definitely a time and a place where getting over it is needed. U can't just stay angry and abuse everyone for decades

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Interesting

Apr 24, 2024 at 9:09pm

Seems ignoring might not be very intelligent in some instances.

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All My Relations

Apr 25, 2024 at 8:37am

Get over about worrying and fretting about yourself and others worrying and fretting about whether or not they are getting over. Why not simply put your time and energy focus into real service such as feeding the hungry, freeing the captives etc. And, even to the deeper depths doctoring the system that has caused the incoherence of people unable to feed and free themselves from the mental and physical incoherence. OCM - Coast Salish positive acknowledgments.

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Hmmm

Apr 25, 2024 at 9:48am

Have you tried seeking counselling of some sort? Perhaps maybe it would help to talk to a professional about what’s going on in your life. Or better yet, maybe try talking it out with the person that wronged you like adults. If it was me, I would just talk it out with the person who wronged me, say what I need to say, and then let them speak their peace pot, then part ways. Just my two cents. Good luck.

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Time to move on

Apr 25, 2024 at 10:15am

Just because you say something stupid or mean or harsh to someone or it happens to you, vice versa, that doesn’t mean you’re going to see these people ever again. Love yourself, surround yourself with positive people and forget the jerks.

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Don’t go down any negative roads

Apr 25, 2024 at 10:18am

I found out a long time ago
You gotta learn to say "yes" when life says "no"
Don't dwell on the bad times once they're past
That kind of thinking gets you nowhere fast

- Waylon Jennings

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@anonymous

Apr 25, 2024 at 4:34pm

If someone has been angry for decades about an injustice done to them that continued for that whole time, they have a legitimate reason to be angry. If they are in turn abusing others because of their own anger, that’s not okay for sure. My particular situation is not that.

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If I'm being honest

Apr 25, 2024 at 4:49pm

Why not choose forgiveness over anger instead? Believe me, there were some people in my that I had to cut loose as a result of them being so thoughtless and disrespectful. Was I hurt? Yes, absolutely. But am I going to allow bad memories to hinder my life? No, certainly not. Just because someone says or does something stupid or unkind, that doesn't mean you're going to see them again. Of course, it's painful to have to deal with some people. It can be exhausting. But I'm not going to spend the rest of my life being all resentful about it. It's just not worth it. Now, I'm not invalidating your feelings, but if you want my honest opinion that kind of thinking gets you nowhere fast. I suggest you try finding something else to focus on. Do you have any hobbies or interests that keep you positive? Maybe perhaps you've got some issues bottled up that you may need help dealing with and no offense, but judging by your post it shows. There's no shame in talking to a professional. I've going through counselling in my life too. Sometimes the counselling hasn't been great, but it has helped me in some ways. If I can choose forgiveness over anger, then there's no reason why you can't. You don't have take my word for it. In the end it's up to you.

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Sounds like

Apr 25, 2024 at 7:41pm

You might benefit from talking to a counsellor instead of venting to perfect strangers. It will help.

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