No I don’t want to be around your kids

Being around my good, long time friends with toddlers is exhausting. They try to arrange hangouts centred around having all of the kids together but I’d rather just be their friend.

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It's time for parents to grow up.

Apr 19, 2024 at 1:19pm

Seriously, it's your joy, not ours. Not everyone gushes over a child, now a puppy dog, that's another story.

16 4Rating: +12

Yes I want to be around your kids

Apr 19, 2024 at 8:51pm

Children are the greatest for-real treasures. I love being with their wonderful energies.

10 9Rating: +1

It’s life

Apr 20, 2024 at 4:32am

Some of us don’t have kids but most people do so either the friendship fades (permanently -or temporarily until their kids grow up) due to the different lifestyle choices, or you learn to accept that to spend time with your friend means also being around their offspring &/or partner.

9 7Rating: +2

Tea

Apr 20, 2024 at 12:06pm

Having 2 kids of my own I never took my kids out w me when I hung out w my friends - I hated that as a single person so I never did that w my friends. It’s not bad to have time away from your kids when you need a break from being a mom/dad. It’s also good for the kids.

17 7Rating: +10

I get it

Apr 20, 2024 at 6:44pm

I understand your feelings. People who don’t have little kids don’t want to spend every social occasion surrounded by them, and there are times when you just want to spend time with your friend without kids present. I feel like this is a typical modern day scenario though, where people with kids expect them to always be welcome no matter what. It’s like some parents have forgotten the concept of babysitters or something. (And btw, I’m a parent myself.)

11 7Rating: +4

Yeah

Apr 21, 2024 at 1:15pm

They're now in a different chapter in their lives, being parents. Yes, I understand that you miss the child-free time with your friends. I know what you're talking about: I get tired of the conversations around toys, naps, snack time, Billy Jim Bob can now sit up, etc. Hardly have the mental space to dote on someone else's children these days. But you're less of a priority now; their childrearing is their priority. A babysitter is running between $15-20/hour currently, so if you really want to make adult-only time with your friends, you could help pitch in toward babysitting costs. Otherwise yes, the gatherings will include the kids. Parents of small kids are extremely preoccupied and exhausted with sleep deprivation. Make it easier for them to hang out with you, and they'll meet you partway.

9 14Rating: -5

What's Worse

Apr 22, 2024 at 9:35am

Is when you invite them out and make sure to accommodate their kids and in return they don't invite you to their hangouts...

11 8Rating: +3

@op

Apr 22, 2024 at 3:21pm

What I don't get is how people who get married and have kids suddenly think EVERYONE needs to get married and have kids. No, it's not for everyone and that's OK.

17 7Rating: +10

Yep

May 20, 2024 at 8:24pm

I would make plans w my mom friend and specifically say no kids and she would bring her kid I had no children at the time, we couldn’t even have a proper conversation because her kid would always interrupt or misbehave etc etc
Fast forward many years and now I have kids and never meet up w friends w my kids unless it’s a play date. I don’t blame you, I’d rather hang out with my friends alone and enjoy my time connecting and having adult conversations and connection.

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