We were children

I used to think that every memory I had about my childhood was “the truth”. For a long time after I reached adulthood I believed that my perception told the story of my family. It did, but the story it told was only my own. It took me a long time to understand how perception is completely different for each person so no two people in any family will remember things the same way. As a parent myself hearing some of the things my own kids believe happened in their childhood, I also realize that children can’t possibly know what’s really going on with their parents, and that helped me see my own parents in a different light. I was just a child so I only remembered my child’s view of life, which was obviously missing so much context that would explain a lot. So now I see my parents more as the complex human beings that they were rather than just the people who created me and provided my reality as a kid. It’s helped me forgive them for the mistakes they made, and it’s replaced some of the anger and resentment I carried with humility as I accept my own humanity too.

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I took my parents (RIP} for granted back then

Apr 15, 2024 at 10:52am

But I sure do appreciate and miss them now.

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@I took

Apr 16, 2024 at 11:50am

Same, same.

To any people reading this who have good relationships with their parents -spend as much time with them as possible, because you will regret lost time with them after they die.

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Abuseville

Apr 16, 2024 at 12:18pm

not just the home I fled aged 18 but the whole neighbourhood and seemingly the whole ethic of this so-called nation. But go on stepping on your offspring while complaining about how you're so misunderstood, the public sector can use more spiritual cripples like my brother who drink themselves into permanent brain damage while dutifully stepping on the rest of us.

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Good post!

Apr 17, 2024 at 5:22am

This applies to all areas of life, not just parents and children, but to all associations. Be aware that your assumptions about a person are just that -assumptions.

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