I guess I am doing grief wrong

As far as I can tell you're supposed to have dead mommy birthday parties and post photos and make holiday notes about missing said dead mommy each and every year to remind everyone how deeply you are grieving. I don't see the need or perhaps I am just not narcissistic enough to remind everyone all. the. time. on social media.

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Oh wow, really?

May 15, 2024 at 12:04pm

You should look into how Asians throw parties for the dead, many cultures do. China even does a ghost marriage. Let people mourn their loss their way, stop being so judgemental. Loss will be the hardest thing you’ve ever done.

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Who’s the narcissist?

May 16, 2024 at 9:34pm

The person making angry sarcastic posts about someone else’s grieving process seems far more narcissistic to me. There’s no right way to grieve. Just because you don’t post about it and someone else does, means nothing. Maybe that person is sending a message to their friends that they are really hurting and could use some support. Instead of setting yourself up as some type of superior being who would never stoop so low as to post about their dead loved one, maybe make yourself useful and act like a decent person to someone who needs it.

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@ Grief

May 19, 2024 at 12:11pm

All my relations. The Elders teach us that all of us in varying degrees experience Grief, and in this life, our priority is to learn to transform our sorrows into the sacred. OCM Sto:lo Coast Salish positive acknowledgments.

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Just don't

May 19, 2024 at 8:54pm

read them or maybe hide their posts.

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Your grief

May 20, 2024 at 4:58am

Seems to make you angry and project. Words of wisdom from a friend: check yourself, before you wreck yourself.

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Gluck

May 23, 2024 at 10:57pm

Sometimes I get upset because someone can express something I relate to, or gets attention for something I relate to but I can't find the bravery or proper way for me to express those things, also sometimes the reaction of others can feel empty even if they're not, so posting is not everyone's thing. Poetry can be a good expression as well

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