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To the guy in the west end STILL banging a pot at 7pm

Get over yourself. I respect the efforts of first responders and healthcare workers but now you’re making it just about you. And yes, I’ve seen you take a bow at the end. Pls stop you’re embarrassing yourself.

The only thing

I regret is not telling people off more often in life, when they deserved it. Avoiding conflict and just rolling over is not a solution to anything!!

Food!

I confess that I am a woman who likes to eat. Every time I go out for a bite with a girlfriend, first they'll tell me how hungry they are, then, when they get their food, will take two dainty bites and get the rest to go. Meanwhile, I scarf down my food and finish my plate. I've gone to restaurants where I'd just be starting my meal and the waitstaff will come over and ask if I was done and wanted it wrapped to go, it's weird. I don't know if women are conditioned to act this way, like they can't wait to get home and finish their meal away from judgy eyes. Screw what people think, life is short, get whatever pleasure you can out of it. (And yes, I know it's covid, only with people in my bubble and outdoor patios if possible)

Donated

Donated my heels to a thrift store. Not wearing that shit anymore!

In order to be wanted...

...you have to make yourself desirable. You aren't going to attract anyone if you are sour and self-absorbed. Lesson learned.

I’m finally getting it!

I confess: I’m a little slow on the uptake. It’s just now occurred to me that my boyfriend has been completely playing me when it comes to his financial contribution to our relationship. Instead of him paying for his fair share of the expenses I incur because we spend 100% of our time at my place (we don’t live together) and he doesn’t pay for anything except buying a few groceries (not even close to half of what he actually uses), instead he “gifts” me money for other things. For example, instead of him paying a percentage of rent, food and sundries, utilities, etc, he’ll just randomly give me some money for a specific purpose. Such as “for gas”, or a specific clothing item. That way he gets to regularly find ways to bring his “largesse” into the conversation, as if he’s done me this huge favour and he can see himself as such a generous and good guy. I can’t believe that it’s taken me this long to truly understand this.

Narcissistic mom

I told my mom that my wife and I are planning to have biological and adopted children. A conversation I’ve been afraid to bring up because I thought I knew what her reaction would be, and I was right. “I don’t want to take care of a grandchild that’s not my blood”.. I said, you won’t have to, because that will be my job, that will be my child and we will take care of him or her. It upsets me that I actually have to consider protecting my future kids from my own mom. If she makes my family uncomfortable, I’m afraid to say I don’t think she can be around us.

Lust Not a Valid Excuse

Most people have that traumatic event they can blame their misfortunes on. Abusive childhoods, crazy ex-spouses, addictions, whatever. Something major. I don't have anything like that. I just saw a pair of long olive legs and something primal said I gotta have that, and the person attached to the legs said NO, and I've been reeling from it for about a decade. But it's not really the kind of pain origin story you can socially unload on people without being ridiculed.

what do you do

when you know your husband or boyfriend so well that you can tell he's checking out younger girls when you go for walks when they aren't making it blatantly obvious. I mean he doesn't think I notice and I'm not going to bring it up since it sounds completely ridiculous but it does make me feel like shit.

I SAW YOU

Recycling depot New West

I came in quickly to drop off two bags of recycling at the express, You were in work gear sorting...

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