ugly legs

I wish that 50 - something women would wear shorts that actually flatter their figure instead of wearing the short shorts that only look good on teens and twenty-somethings instead of trying too hard to find someone to admire them. Sure, you may skip a lot of meals to keep those legs as slim as you like them but the skin is old, and the muscles you do not have are sagging, lets face it the whole package is old and you women with slim but aging legs look like death warmed over at the best of times, because you are not athletic or very healthy and believe me you look your age

It's Not A Myth

Wow. People *really* aren't respecting the physical distancing thing. They're even making fun of it. Tonight I braved my local cold beer and wine store for the first time in a while. They were only letting one person in at a time -- no browsing. I was so glad to see that. But while I was lined up outside, the young couple behind me kept creeping closer. They were only about two feet behind me at one point. And I could hear them laughing and talking about me and all the others who were, as they put it, "paranoid." Then there were all the jerks who brushed past us within inches on the sidewalk. Guys, the streets are empty -- walk around and keep your distance. Honestly, it's far more stressful going out to grocery shop or buy the odd bottle of wine on a Friday night than it is to stay isolated indoors. The idiocy and unkindness that I experience in public these days makes me feel hopeless.

Years ago, anthropologist Margaret Mead was asked by a student

what she considered the first sign of civilization in a culture. The student expected Mead to talk about fish hooks or clay pots or grinding stones. But no, Mead said that the first sign of civilization in an ancient culture was a femur (thighbone) that had been broken then healed. Mead explained, that in the animal kingdom, if you break your leg, you die. You can not run from danger, get to the river for a drink or hunt food. You are meat for prowling beasts. No animal survives a broken leg long enough for the bone to heal. A broken femur that has healed is proof that someone has taken time to stay with the person who has fell, has bound up the wound, has carried the person to safety and has tended the person through recovery. ‘Helping someone through difficulty is where civilization starts’ said Mead. We are at our best when we serve others. Be civilized.” - by Dr. Ira Byock, in his book on palliative medicine The Best Care Possible: A Physician’s Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life (Avery, 2012).

Quiet thought

I want the virus to spread and infect everyone. I want everyone to contemplate that they might die, that those they love or simply value may die. Some may finally awaken to the level of interconnected ness of our civilization and maybe just maybe toss aside their outdated ideas and greed. I want covid to be the kick to the balls we all need to start fixing our society and planet.

I'm fortunate

I bought my toilet paper early... but I'm still thinking about buying more. I know... it's crazy, but it's exactly what you're thinking too.

Travelers We Resent You

I work at the airport. I checked you in to your last minute Hawaii flight even though warnings asked us all to stay home. You didn't care..... you still went. As a result WE Airport / airline employees have to still be here to cater to you bunch of entitled pricks. Fyi*** EVERY AIRPORT AND AIRLINE EMPLOYEE RESENTS YOU FOR STILL TRAVELING.... you walk past us and we roll our eyes, we all talk about how stupid you are behind your back. When uou're offloading from your trip and you cough in my face, you stand so close I can feel your breTh on my face..... it's disgusting!! Why are you still traveling?? We resent you.... but hey still come to the airport ...... and you'll see fake smiles from all of us!!!! You should have been back home 2 Weeks ago btw- I WANT TO BE AT HOME. STOP FUCKING TRAVELING PLEASE!!! We ALL can't stand you...... just so you know : ))

Heavy breathing joggers

I confess that I’m the ‘crazy bitch’ who extends my dog’s leash 2 meters when you jog past me on the Seawall in such close proximity that I can smell your b.o.. Doctors say that running increases the chances of producing micro-droplets that can transmit the virus from person to person, if too close. So , if you’re gonna take up jogging during a pandemic (ya, talking to you running in your Vans) , then respect the distancing metrics or I’ll do it for you .

Bad Guy

About 4.5 years ago I left an abusive relationship with a narcissistic man who made my life hell for almost 2 years. I still see him around every couple of months as we still live in the same neighbourhood, and in that time he's had about 10-15 new girlfriends. It always make me sad because I realize they are all going to go down the same path I did, because I wish that I could warn them. Admittedly I learned a lot about myself in the aftermath, but it makes me sad that all of these other women are going to go on a really unpleasant emotional journey, and there's nothing I can do about it. Also just a shout out: I posted a confession on here about 1.5 years after I left him, and some of the commenters posted some really good advice about befriending myself, creating healthier boundaries, working on my self regard, and though they were hard to hear at the time, they made a big difference to me and really helped me in a dark time, so thanks to the folks that post really solid and constructive advice. I am doing so much better now that I've taken heed. <3

Celebrities Stop

I am tired of celebrities telling us all how we can do better, like them, by staying at home. I have no problem with the staying home concept, but I hate hearing about it as they post from their mansions. Stop applauding yourselves. You all have so much wealth staying home isn’t a hardship. Again, not saying people should go out, but i’d rather hear from someone in a 600 sq ft apartment talking about their choice to stay home than some smug actress getting her damn food helicoptered into her 30 acre property. Also... most people can’t afford not to work, or will get evicted and starve. Celebrities, stop applauding yourselves for having enough money to make lifestyle choice most cannot afford. You sound as out of touch as Marie Antoinette.


Hey, my eyes are down

I’ve seen you, and I feel you’ve seen me.. ...


Savage Love: Now is not the time to open things up

My husband and I got married in August of 2019 and we were together for over five years before getting married. I’m very happy and love him with all my heart.