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James Bond Ruined Me

I grew up on Bond films and I think it severely damaged my ability to have relationships. I'm not saying it turned me into a cold womanizer or anything but it did probably help to create an insatiable thirst for the 'exotic'. Falling one after another for women from different geographies I never know if I actually care for them or if I'm simply intrigued by the new and trying to fill a cultural bingo sheet.

Spinster

I'm so happy to be single right now. Not getting nagged to an early grave. Fuck, he was annoying. Even the friends I've seen (at a distance) are annoying as hell. I love lying in bed for as long as I please, getting up at noon to listen to jazz, eating pancakes with lots of maple syrup while sitting on the balcony as the sun shines all over my makeup free face. Nothing beats it.

Does Freedom die here?

I'm at odds why is so many people are in such a hurry to lose their rights and freedom all of sudden without so much as a thought. Freedom of speech , wether you like what another person says or doesn't you owe it to them and honour their right to free speech because our Fathers died to protect that right. Holding one opinion only creates a vacuum where only those thoughts can exist thus creating an island which alienates everyone else except those who are deemed likeminded. . Those who choose to live by cancel culture are only one misstep away from being cancelled themselves and you simply don't know everything even though your phone might tell you that you do. I do not want my kids to live in a world where they aren't free to speak without being attacked online from mobs of arm chair generals who live on the currency of loneliness and fear.

The Cool Ones

I like the cool people. The ones who are kind. The ones who give space. They move gently. When they can — when they feel up to it — they look you in the eye and give you a smile as they walk past. But they also recognize when others can't do the same, and they say to themselves "That's OK." They listen. They read. They educate themselves. They share. They practice humility. They are reasonable. They acknowledge their privilege. They feel and express gratitude. They are discerning. Yep, I like the cool ones. And guess what? Plot twist: The cool ones were cool all along — pandemic or not.

Why go back?

I don't understand why so many people want things to go back to the way they were pre Covid. We did so many things wrong that are coming back to bite us in the ass. From storing the elderly in seniors homes like used auto parts to spending too much of our money on imported crap that we didn't really need, we have been living a very unsustainable and unhealthy way of life for too many years. My hope is that our future is far from the life we used to live and an opportunity to make meaningful and impactful changes to how we treat each other and our planet.

Ashamed to vent

I paid my rent and bills then off to work at the mental health clinic. Haven't seen my boyfriend since early March. I feel like I'm paying for everyone who is at home and baking bread. I feel resentful and angry when I know I should be grateful for having a job and a paycheque. No one asks if I'm ok and I'm alone. I listen to other people's problems, fears, worries.....I can't care anymore. Sorry.....I know people have it worse than me. Thanks for the 7 pm cheer.

Stag and Vixen

I don’t want to be degraded and I don’t want her to indiscriminately sleep with any guy but I love that my GF fucks other men. It works for us. She’s possessive and jealous. I’m not. It’s only natural to be attracted to other people but this allows us to share those experiences. It keeps our sex life and our relationship exciting. It works for us!

I ignored it the first time

after I tipped the coffee barista with no acknowledgement from her. No problem, it's a crazy time, our minds are all a bit distracted these days. Then I tipped the same person a second time, no reaction. I know it's only $1 on a $2 cup of coffee but that's a 50% tip for 30 seconds work poring a black coffee. If every customer tipped you $1 that would be a pretty good shift. I'm just sayin, a simple thank you goes a long way.

I found her

I was having a very rough time after a breakup. My ex sent me pictures of myself taken many years ago, where I looked young and happy. He said he misses that girl. I said I miss her too. He said I should tell him when I find her. So after thinking about it I’ve realized a few things: firstly, I aged just like he did, and I’ve never made him feel badly about his own physical changes. Secondly, one of the reasons I stopped being happy was because I was in a relationship with someone who constantly criticized me, judged me, and made me feel that I was never good enough to please him. And finally, I realized that I’ve found that girl again and all it took was to lose him. Will I be telling him? Hell no.

Oddly enough

My life hasn't really changed that much. ( other than hoping that no one is coming towards me in the grocery aisle.) I don't really have friends to socialize with and can not afford restaurants, bars, concerts, sports events, vacations or traveling. My work has been done partially online before. I'm single, middle aged and home most of the time other than my usual walks outside . My income does not allow for shopping trips for clothes or new household items for fun. No one makes a big fuss on my birthday. It just seems odd that people are complaining so much about these things. There are lots of real reasons for stress during the pandemic. But lots of people are like me and have not gone out to restaurants or trips before either.

I SAW YOU

I almost crashed my bike on Adanac by the...

You: awesome knee-high blue socks. Me: salmon floral shirt and glasses. You flashed me a smile...

SAVAGE LOVE

Savage Love: The dumpee will meet someone else

I don’t want to become one of those people who write to you complaining about how I married someone I wasn’t sexually compatible with 10 years ago and now my sex life still sucks.