I have always been kind of a drifter through life, no clear goals or ambitions, a recent wake up call happened when I learned the job I had for 15 years may be ending soon and I have been sending out resumes. I am in my 50s so the prospect of looking for new work is bad enough but I have come to the realization that I have no "hard" skills. I don't speak another language, don't know how to touch type, can't computer code, have the barest understanding of MS Office and Excel, only vaguely know a few computer programs all of them art related. Back when I was in my 30s friends, who's career paths weren't working out went back to school and learned different skill sets. Since it took until my 40s to pay off my student loans, the idea of going into debt again filled me with dread. On top of that, I'm terrible at networking and I don't play well with others. So yeah, I'm screwed. I'm a few credits away from a BFA, I'm thinking dipping into my savings and going back to school so I can say I accomplished something. however minor. Heed these words people in your 30s and 40s, it's not too late to change paths if things aren't working out for you, don't paint yourself into a corner like I did.
I started a new job. It has been gruelling to say the least: endless tasks, interruptions, competing demands, etc. A coworker, who I never talk to beyond “Good morning”, cornered me at lunch and said “I think you’re looking for a new job. I think you’re gonna quit.” It came out of left field and I responded, “Why are you so interested in my life?” I am wondering if they will try to get me fired or something. I honestly don’t understand office workers, if they are so completely bored as to conjur up imaginary things that their colleagues might do.
I spent my 20's sleeping with Bartenders, Musicians, Firemen etc. I just hit 30 and I have now made an important decision. I am saving myself until marriage starting now.
Most of these homophobic yobs dream about dating & having sex with 19 year attractive women ,or dream about having 19 year grlfriends & get turned on by women having sex with each other or fantasize about it....they just don't tell their fellow bigots (or wives)
I never thought I would meet the the man of my dreams. Caring, thoughtful, so wonderful and knows how to treat a lady if you know what I mean !
But I have and I feel like the luckiest woman on the planet. Don't give up ladies your true love is out there too.
Any time there is a government push for me to read particular "news" articles that are basically a moral agenda pushed by the government while it trashes religion and culture, I just change the channel. It's that simple.
I’m getting pretty tired of chasing after gorgeous humans on dating apps. I’m browsing through dating apps bios when I stumble on a beautiful human with a bio that reads like this (with my translations included):
“Work a lot - don’t text back fast - nothing personal”
Translation: Good luck, the odds are we’ll probably never meet, I’m too busy to meet, let alone send messages… why am I even on this dating app? I shouldn’t even be on here. I’m just going to waste your time and get your hopes up.
“Also not super chatty”
Translation: I’m gorgeous… therefore I put in zero effort into this. Chase after me. YOU need to do all the work and say all the perfect things to hook me into conversation. Impress me somehow so I will maybe go on a date with you. Good luck!
Translation: I’ll probably end up wasting your time and energy and you’ll eventually get exhausted of my lack of responses to texts. Odds are, I’ll probably just not respond and end up ghosting you.
I say we just leave all the gorgeous zero effort people behind and stop pursuing them… it’s such an entitlement. Dating takes effort, energy and mutual genuine interest. Don’t even bother signing up for apps if you KNOW you’re a bad texter with no time space or energy.
Last week I stayed in an Airbnb with a porch, and a street car was sleeping on the chair out there. I opened the door and got to have a little furry friend tiptoeing around. Best feeling ever!
I once dated a woman who was Wiccan. She liked me, but I was afraid of her. I told her that I did not want to see her anymore, and she became enraged. I have no problem with what she wants to believe. That is her right, of course. But she scared me.
Has anyone here ever come out of a very thick, long-lasting fog of gaslighting? I simultaneously feel very free and relieved to have my mind back but also baffled at how anyone could put someone through such turmoil. In addition, feeling disappointed in the mental health professionals I connected with that were no help at all. People aren't trained to understand this stuff, or are willfully ignorant of the risk they place on a survivor's wellbeing by insisting that the problem originates inside of them.