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Advice for Men

I am a married man and my advice to young men after seeing divorce for most of my friends is as following: 1) When selecting a woman make sure she has a job, education, and strong work ethic. 2) Looks are not the most important thing. Go for a 7 with a good personality over the 9 who has no personality. 3) Make sure the woman knows how to cook. 4) Watch what she puts in her body. A woman in her 20's can eat like a pig and still look good but when she hits her 30's and 40's there is a very good chance she will be obese. 5) If a woman has only male friends. That's a giant red flag. 6) If a woman tells you she is crazy she probably is. 7) If a woman tells you she has cheated on a partner in the past avoid her. Chances are she will do it again. 10) Make sure she knows how to save money and not spend money frivolously. 11) Make sure she doesn't do drugs or drink excessively. I think if more men listened to my advice they wouldn't be divorced and living in their car eating cans of beans for dinner every night.

Changing

As I get older, I am no longer enticed by material goods, or listening to someone talk about them. I just can't relate when someone shows off a box of $200 skincare regime, talks about wanting a Ferrari, getting a new Tiffany ring, etc. It sounds like a foreign language to me almost. I don't value, seek or place any significance on this stuff. As I age, all I want is freedom. I want to go where I want, when I want, spend time with people that I care about, and not be beholden by the clock. I don't see why people want X thing over Y thing, or chase limited edition anything. I guess what I'm trying to say is, people seem to have lost the meaning of what is worthy. People chase what others tell them what is worthy. Would I drive across town to get a coat that is normally $700 but now $200? No I wouldn't. It's like people are chasing this high-class lifestyle but they're all working class followers just wanting to buy shit. I'd be more than happy to get up early with someone to watch the sun rise and walk around outside for a few hours, and talk about ideas, goals, plans, and not talk about buying stuff. Or is it that people who don't have ideas, goals and plans, fill up their life with buying stuff?

Moira

I hate ostentatious Hydro gobbling Christmas displays. What are those people thinking?

A tip for the non tipper.

I just wanted to shed some light on my industry and how it works to give YOU the much appreciated customer a little Insite on why you should tip your food delivery person. Some of you may not know that we are part of the food industry and we depend on gratuities to make a decent living in Vancouver. Do you not tip your pizza driver? Do you not tip your server if you are at a restaurant? We provide a service and we ride hard on our bikes to insure your food makes it to you fast warm and unscathed. The way it works is that we get $4.50 per delivery no matter how far we ride from pick up to drop off it’s a solid $4.50 a delivery, now on an average we do about two an hour, all depending on how busy the restaurants are and how far we have to ride to the restaurant and customer . Although there is a per kilometre insentive but only from restaurant to the customer however most times I ride 5km just to pick something up going half a block away and then to not get a tip Is discouraging . I think how our app is set up the customer assumes we don’t see that they don’t tip, but I can assure you we know. So we average about $9.00 an hour, so you can see why your gratuities are important to us. we haul around big pink bags, we play in traffic hoping motorists are paying attention trying not to get killed busting are butts trying to stay dry and warm at the same time, all to bring you your delicious food, we are a convinence to you, we make your life simpler, we make life better one delivery at a time. Don’t be that guy/gal that your servers talk about at a restaurant, we see that you don’t tip and we know when you dont value are job or service or you’re just straight cheap. Either way, I’m assuming some of you didn’t know how our industry works and I’m hoping that’s the case. And I’m hoping tipping your food delivery person becomes more common than it is now.

thanks but no thanks

I was at a traditionally male shop today with my boyfriend. My boyfriend was talking to the sales guy & I stepped in to listen, then got very interested in what was being sold & (without interrupting) asked a question. The sales guy glances at me, then proceeds to explain the answer to my question - to my boyfriend. I ask again, a different question. The guy barely looks at me this time and keeps explaining shit to my boyfriend. Guess who has a big fat paycheque though? I do, not my boyfriend, and I'll be taking my business elsewhere where I get better service and acknowledgement thanks very much. Ya big sexist turd.

It finally happened

Been messaging with this guy for years. There was a chance to meet up face to face, with me flying to his city. He declined meeting up. So it really is true, and it is disappointing: there is no point with social media, because the end goal is not meeting up. The goal is to just type and like and emoji on and stare at your phone. There is no point anymore in social media for me. If we are not going to meet up face to face and bond, what is the fucking point? I’m done. I give up. White flag. Social media dies today for me. I’ve read about how this all happens to people, and yup, it happened to me today. I’m done looking at people’s lives, dogs, kids, pizza, beer, vacation pictures. It’s meaningless after all. No contact is exactly the point. It’s broadcasting, to no one in particular. A tv station with no audience in mind. I’m unplugging once and for all.

I’m grateful this Christmas

Man, when you look at the shit storm brewing all over the planet it’s a good time to count your blessings. With a roof over my head, a job and friends I’m feeling fortunate.

i hate my dad

I hate my dad. Growing up, i never felt close to him. He was controlling, spiteful, and dictatorial. I never thought of him as my dad. He is a stranger that acted dad-like from time to time. My body reacts to even the mention of him in a such a negative way. My chest tightens and i am immediately filled with anxiety just knowing hes in the house. Everything in me screams to get as far away from him as possible. I want to move out so bad but dont have the financial means.

Good reminders

I was at Costco tonight and a little girl was running around, singing at the top of her lungs the "chorus" from Old MacDonald Had a Farm. Over and over and over again. She ran by me at one point and I smiled at her but secretly thought, "This is a great reminder of why I chose not to have children." EIEIO!

My boss is a toxic nightmare

My boss is really hard to deal with and I’m not sure I can do it much longer. Apart from being super demanding they give instructions, then contradict themselves, go back on said instructions and blame me for getting it wrong. Sometimes I’ll come around the corner after just having had a frustrating scenario with my boss and they’ll be whispering to another colleague and the whispering will stop when I’m around. My workplace feels like high school. My boss talks shit about anyone whose back is turned and also makes faces right beside/around people when those same people are not looking in their direction. Other times they’re really funny & overly good to us. It feels like an abusive relationship and I am exhausted.

So I tried an experiment this weekend

No booze. Not a big deal for most people but I haven’t had a sober weekend in many, many months. So I ended up hitting the gym Friday, Saturday and Sunday. Woke up feeling clear- headed and rested. Not feeling God awful depressed on Sunday like I usually do. And my weekend actually felt like a weekend, not a drunken blip before I return to work. I think I’ll try this more often.

Stop the BLAME GAME... taxi drivers and call takers are people too!!

Sooooo tired of people shit&$#ing all over taxi drivers, call takers and the taxi companies!! Remember that YOUR government is responsible for the amount of taxi licences issued... Ergo the number of taxis on the road!! Time to quit bashing the taxi companies and start at the source! Not saying taxi companies are perfect but with what they have to put up with... People need to quit bashing them and take some responsibility... like the INSANE amount of trips made by taxis to 'no shows', which take time and money out the drivers and their family's pockets and which delays 'your' taxi from coming in a timely manner! Then because people sit in their cozy apts, to 'wait' for that all important phone call (as if it were a limousine service), to then put their shoes and coats on, wait for the elevator and all the while expect the driver to just wait there... Not getting paid... And assume that when you didn't bother to answer your phone that you are still coming for your taxi! Or like the INSANE no of calls to the call centre saying I missed a call from you...which was your ALL SO IMPORTANT CALL from your taxi to say it is there or almost there... Yay think you should just go down to get your taxi or wait a few minutes for it to arrive before tying up the phone LINES AGAIN and making new people wanting a taxi wait even longer on hold... with your stupid call! And then you have the AUDACITY to call AGAIN tying up the lines AGAIN to say you missed your taxi or your taxi DIDN'T COME (when it did and you were no where to be seen!) and with no sense of responsibility... demand that ANOTHER TAXI BE SENT RIGHT AWAY... OK YOUR HIGHNESS OR MAJESTY!! Or the number of call backs asking how long will my taxi be... When it's only been 6 mins IN RUSH HOUR since you called for one... OMG!! Or the morons who puke, spill, or otherwise debase the car... So now that car is out of service for you and the driver and his /her family who are losing their 'very' hard earned money!! And then there are those that think the taxi just sits and waits for their call ... to come right away and pick them up... REALLY? Or do you stop to think that there are disabled people out there that take a lot if taxis, who take longer to get in and out? Or do you think about the number of calls for emergency trips to hospitals because people can't afford ambulances because your government charges for them? Or about the number of wheelchair trips that take extra time to load and unload? Or the number of people who take taxis out of Vancouver, where the taxi isn't licenced to pick up any fares on the way back or make any money until they get back to Vancouver. Or the number of airport trips that take the cars out of the downtown area of Vancouver? Or the number of people who use taxis as mini movers throughout the month or end of the month to move their belongings because it's cheaper than renting a van? Or the number of drunks, and not just on the weekends, some who are friendly, but so many that are rude, lude, disrespectful and who DON'T PAY, then the police are called now delaying yet another car or multiple cars!! Or the drug addicts who may or may not be easy to deal with or who may or may not pay? Or the hundreds of people coming out of events... all wanting cabs NOW!! The number of people who PRE BOOK taxis (who also think that a car is just sitting around waiting to go pick them up at THEIR RESERVED TIME ... because THEY MADE A RESERVATION and have a plane to catch or a party to get to or a very important dinner or 'I'm going to be late for work' that's the best one... Like it's the taxi company's or call takers FAULT... GET OUT BED SOONER! And that the reservation just preempts anthing mentioned above and below that could delay a taxi... OMG give your heads a shake!! !! The fact that you're dealing with CARS... that break down, get flat tires, that need gas (have you seen any gas stations downtown lately?) or get into accidents, or construction, or traffic delays, or weather? The rude and downright nasty language and attitudes towards drivers and call takers is just DESPICABLE! Believe it or not these people are someone's Father, Brother, Husband, Mother, Sister, Daughter... Would you want your family member treated sooooo badly?? This is not aimed at you... but ALL who blame the taxi industry for ALL the problems,! PLEASE people think about the ENTIRE problem and TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for your part in the taxi problems in this city and REMEMBER that we can ALL DO BETTER!!!

Mr Moustache and Tweed Jacket

I must confess that you are a sight for sore eyes on the hellish and dystopian skytrain commute in the mornings. As Seth says, "keep being awesome."

Disrespectful Concert Goers

I attended the Ty Segall acoustic gig recently. 75% of the crowd didn't listen to the artist they paid to see, instead they talked to each other. I could barely hear Ty over the crowd's chatter. I don't pay to hear your drunk chatter, I pay to see accomplished musicians do their thing. Were half of you there simply to look cool? Shut up, listen, and be respectful at concerts.

Really, a Question

Why is it that, when hetero people are found having an affair, the other woman is always the one who gets demonized? The man's wife takes all of her anger out on the woman. The man takes his anger out on the other woman. The couple's friends and family vilify the other woman. She is flogged with anger and insults while he "made a mistake". Wait, he made a choice to make a commitment to his wife. The other woman has zero responsibility to his wife or family or friends. Oh, and wait, he made a choice to have an affair. or multiple night's out with another woman or women. So, why is the other woman the villain but the man is just flawed?

I SAW YOU

Wolf Eyes on the B-Line

Shot in the dark here. Thurs. Dec. 13th. 12:45 midday. B-line. Pouring rain. ...

SAVAGE LOVE

Savage Love: Sex-shaming bro is the bad guy

My asshole MAGA brother “stumbled over” the Tumblr blog where the wife and I posted about our sexual adventures.