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Gym etiquette

I tried politely to tell a fellow gym user in my building not to stare at his phone for 5+ minutes in between every set. It's a small gym and you have to be courteous to your fellow neighbours. Well, after ignoring my polite requests I simply walked over and started using the equipment after his set was done. When he said he still had sets, I told him to look at his phone until I was done. Yes, I know it's all completely childish and unnecessary but such is life when you share it with assholes.

Guys Plz

You know what turns me on? Conversation, sense of humor, silliness AND guy who takes as much as care of himself as I do. Like, I can not stress this enough. If you want to get a girl that looks good 100% of the time, TRY NOT LOOKING LIKE A SLOB. Care about fashion. PRO-TIP: Guys always look 100% more sexy in a good fitting suit. It's like... a brain ninja thing. Roll with it, always wear slacks and a button down, care about your hair, or if you're bald, your facial hair. Go to the gym, you can meet tons of girls there. Acne on your face? Me too, you know what I use? All kinds of facial products to get rid of it. They are available for dudes too you know. Like I really don't understand this concept of "I want someone who looks amazing but I can't even put on matching socks." UGH!

Those people

I can't stand people who aren't aware of their surroundings. These are the ones who walk into a store and stop dead in the entrance while they figure out where to go. They walk down the sidewalk with their heads in their phones until I almost run into them and scare them half to death. They are standing on the bus or skytrain and move a whole 2 cm to allow me to get by when I have to get off. I really can't stand you people.

Ignorant little piggies

Right now I’m sitting in a JJ’s watching a couple of young people scarf down coffees and wraps. A man and a woman. They’ve been sitting for about 30 minutes. And as disgusting as it is to watch these offensive millennial sloths inhale their food while talking loudly and overtly, its the fact that they purchased the food to go, in bags and paper cups, that is truly offensive. So in effect they used those containers to carry the food from the cashier to the table, about 35 feet in this case. They’ve just walked out. Straight past the garbage can in which they dump all that paper and plastic. JJ’s does a great job of offering recycling receptacles RIGHT NEXT TO THE GARBAGE CAN! They even separate out the different materials for us - plastics in here, paper in here... but for this ugly couple, they just dump it all into the can that’s goes to the landfill. These pathetic, gluttonous dimwits have no idea! The planet and this city need far far fewer people like this if we’re going to have any chance at averting the perils of a worsening environment. It’s all about attitude and being conscientious. It’s super easy. But assholes like this make it very hard.

Travel

Been in Europe for a while and decided to stop by ye ol confessions page. None of your complaints hold any ground outside of Vancouver and its fairly obvious that most people who reside in Van never travel outside of Bc. If you did none of this would matter. Where i am currently men are considered wealthy if they live in a basement suite. Women not only ask you out but on first dates they pay. Its because they want to to take them out next and show them up. Seen one pair of yoga pants. Nobody wears bike helmets and having a beer at 10 am is a coffee break. Subway? Packed to the gills. Garbage everwhere and the best part nobody is a cellphone zombie and if you bust it out at a club or event security escorts you out. Save your money and travel. Perhaps you cant find anybody worth dating and meeting because you all complain about nothing like its paramount and that spells boring with a capital loser. Im here on an entry level income so stop whining and travel already. What a pathetic mindset in bc.

Thumbs down

Screw every cyclist in this city that doesn't wear a helmet, blows through stop signs and ignores roundabouts. Buddy, you were so close to getting smoked today and you didn't even realize it. Giving all the good cyclists a bad name. Bring on the car hate, fuckers. I don't see nearly as much bad driving in a day as I do with cycling.

I am bewildered

at what happened today. I am a 59 yr. old male. I was riding the Skytrain and witnessed very close by a dishevelled man verbally accosting a female passenger. They were not together, I saw him approach her from another car. He was using racist and misogynist language that was clearly confrontational. He did not touch her in any way but his verbal abuse was quite loud. I stepped in and asked the lady if she was OK, did she need help? She turned at me and yelled, "I can handle myself, mind your own business!" And so I did. I really need some feedback here. Did I do wrong? Still now, recounting it here I feel like I did the right thing?

Unfit in Vancouver

Once upon a time, people dressed pretty well and were reasonably fit. Now, there are so many overweight people all running around in fitness gear.

Simpsons

I like Apu's part, and I am from India. Why are people trashing the Simpsons now? I'm against this PC shit. Comedy is comedy.

I got fat : some progress

1 week in of changed habits = 2 lbs off the scale. Not a drastic change but it’s something. 1) instead of eating at my desk mindless surfing the net, I went walking for 30 minutes at lunch. 2) got up early and would go walking before breakfast on the weekend, again instead of just reading news sites on my butt at home 3) drastically reduced my intake of beloved chips and increased my intake of salmon and veggies 4) stayed off social media 5) on the bus home, looked out the window instead of staring at my gadget. Helped a bus driver rearrange the front area with stroller, walker and wheelchair quickly to get the bus moving fast. Being present and helping people, remember that?? Feeling better, looking less puffy, deliberately living my life again and gave time back to me rather than looking into my phone. Small win.

Miracle

My wife is an absolute knockout and I am what you say an acquired taste in the looks department. Often times men will stop me and ask me what my secret is. The advice I give them is I realized when I was about 14 that I was not going to look like Brad Pitt. I was hoping that by some miracle I would grow into my face but that never happened. So I decided to improve myself as best as I could. I started going to the gym and studying very hard in school. I read one book a week for years. I studied yoga and martial arts and became comfortable with myself. I went to university and then law school. I worked 80 hours a week for years and then finally I saved enough for a big house and a expensive car. I started wearing trendy clothing and paying for expensive haircuts. Then I met my wife while she was a hostess at a restaurant and after some dogged persistence she gave in and went on a date with me and the rest is history. My advice is you may be dealt a bad deck in life but if you work hard everyday you can turn it around.

Yeah Yeah

The last two months I been getting so many girls and I dunno why before that I wasn't getting this much. I think it has to do with hormones in the summer making girls extra thirsty. I am no doctor though. Now I got one on a Friday night and another on a Saturday night. I am in full party mode. I am cool though I don't do any drugs and always use condoms because I am responsible and I work a fulltime job in construction during the week. I dunno what it is but I am gonna ride this wave of girls as long as I can cuz it could end anytime.

Reality check

When I drive home after work, I sometimes detour through the DTES and E Hastings St. I live downtown, somewhat sheltered from the community and the struggles the locals go through on a daily basis. It's a little reality check to remind myself that my life is extremely easy compared to others. I am far from rich, but I have everything I need. A solid job, access to decent health care, a loving wife, a beautiful child and no mental health issues. If I feel like complaining because my breakfast wrap didn't come with salsa, or my coffee was too cold, I move my thoughts to the DTES residents and try to think what their complaints would be.

I feels so stupid

I have been with my bf for 2 years and we live together and I am miserable all the time. I work 2 jobs full time to pay the bills and he hasn't really worked for 2 years. He might work a month in a year doing painting or security work and then he gets fired and its always someone else's fault. I just have so much anger when I come home and the apartment is a mess and hes playing video games on the couch. There is nothing physically or mentally wrong with him. Hes just lazy. I blame myself because I let it drag on for so long because I have low self esteem because I used to think I deserve this but I deserve better. We got into a big fight and I couldn't take it anymore and threw him out. He can live in his mom and dads basement. This isn't a rant about men in Vancouver its just about me and him and I am sorry about ranting. I am just in tears because I love him so much and this jerk never once got me a birthday gift or told me I was beautiful. Working two full time jobs, doing all the laundry, all the cooking and cleaning just took a huge toll on me and I reached my breaking point because its just too much. I just feel so stupid because I wasted 2 years of my life on this jerk.

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