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It's Not A Myth

Wow. People *really* aren't respecting the physical distancing thing. They're even making fun of it. Tonight I braved my local cold beer and wine store for the first time in a while. They were only letting one person in at a time -- no browsing. I was so glad to see that. But while I was lined up outside, the young couple behind me kept creeping closer. They were only about two feet behind me at one point. And I could hear them laughing and talking about me and all the others who were, as they put it, "paranoid." Then there were all the jerks who brushed past us within inches on the sidewalk. Guys, the streets are empty -- walk around and keep your distance. Honestly, it's far more stressful going out to grocery shop or buy the odd bottle of wine on a Friday night than it is to stay isolated indoors. The idiocy and unkindness that I experience in public these days makes me feel hopeless.

Years ago, anthropologist Margaret Mead was asked by a student

what she considered the first sign of civilization in a culture. The student expected Mead to talk about fish hooks or clay pots or grinding stones. But no, Mead said that the first sign of civilization in an ancient culture was a femur (thighbone) that had been broken then healed. Mead explained, that in the animal kingdom, if you break your leg, you die. You can not run from danger, get to the river for a drink or hunt food. You are meat for prowling beasts. No animal survives a broken leg long enough for the bone to heal. A broken femur that has healed is proof that someone has taken time to stay with the person who has fell, has bound up the wound, has carried the person to safety and has tended the person through recovery. ‘Helping someone through difficulty is where civilization starts’ said Mead. We are at our best when we serve others. Be civilized.” - by Dr. Ira Byock, in his book on palliative medicine The Best Care Possible: A Physician’s Quest to Transform Care Through the End of Life (Avery, 2012).

Quiet thought

I want the virus to spread and infect everyone. I want everyone to contemplate that they might die, that those they love or simply value may die. Some may finally awaken to the level of interconnected ness of our civilization and maybe just maybe toss aside their outdated ideas and greed. I want covid to be the kick to the balls we all need to start fixing our society and planet.

Travelers We Resent You

I work at the airport. I checked you in to your last minute Hawaii flight even though warnings asked us all to stay home. You didn't care..... you still went. As a result WE Airport / airline employees have to still be here to cater to you bunch of entitled pricks. Fyi*** EVERY AIRPORT AND AIRLINE EMPLOYEE RESENTS YOU FOR STILL TRAVELING.... you walk past us and we roll our eyes, we all talk about how stupid you are behind your back. When uou're offloading from your trip and you cough in my face, you stand so close I can feel your breTh on my face..... it's disgusting!! Why are you still traveling?? We resent you.... but hey still come to the airport ...... and you'll see fake smiles from all of us!!!! You should have been back home 2 Weeks ago btw- I WANT TO BE AT HOME. STOP FUCKING TRAVELING PLEASE!!! We ALL can't stand you...... just so you know : ))

Heavy breathing joggers

I confess that I’m the ‘crazy bitch’ who extends my dog’s leash 2 meters when you jog past me on the Seawall in such close proximity that I can smell your b.o.. Doctors say that running increases the chances of producing micro-droplets that can transmit the virus from person to person, if too close. So , if you’re gonna take up jogging during a pandemic (ya, talking to you running in your Vans) , then respect the distancing metrics or I’ll do it for you .

I'm no stalker but..

I feel a tremendous amount of admiration for the dedication of Dr. Bonnie Henry. she makes me proud to be Canadian and consequently makes me want to be a better citizen. A salute to whomever appointed her, your judgement is perfect.

Celebrities Stop

I am tired of celebrities telling us all how we can do better, like them, by staying at home. I have no problem with the staying home concept, but I hate hearing about it as they post from their mansions. Stop applauding yourselves. You all have so much wealth staying home isn’t a hardship. Again, not saying people should go out, but i’d rather hear from someone in a 600 sq ft apartment talking about their choice to stay home than some smug actress getting her damn food helicoptered into her 30 acre property. Also... most people can’t afford not to work, or will get evicted and starve. Celebrities, stop applauding yourselves for having enough money to make lifestyle choice most cannot afford. You sound as out of touch as Marie Antoinette.

Seriously!

As a parent who is now forced to work from home while attempting to manage my children’s educational needs, I am overwhelmed by the amount of correspondence and seemingly mountainous amounts of energy and effort that this is all going to take during an extremely stressful and unprecedented experience. I am not sure why the school districts are expecting so much from the children and families. Some of us are simply trying to figure out how we are going to pay the rent and put food on the table. It seems absolutely absurd and cruel to have these demands and expectations put on us by the school. WE ARE NOT TEACHERS!! We are ALL experiencing anxiety and stress and grief. How in the world are we meant to force our children to act as if everything is normal and that they’d best get there work done? It was hard enough to get some of them to complete their homework let alone sign into websites, create passwords, check for assignments, learn a language! You are adding more stress and more anxiety to an already unbelievable set of circumstances! How about give them all grades, tell them to read a book and take care of their mental health! This is shameful.

Essential Services huh?

I work in a grocery store. Last year, I got sick at least six times from customers. I'd start my shift feeling fine, and by the end of the night, I'd get that tickle in my throat that meant I've caught a bug from someone. I don't make much money, and I don't get sick days so I had no choice but to come in sick and (cautiously) power through it in order to make ends meet. Every day I see customers coughing and sneezing all over the place without bothering to cover themselves. I remember learning in elementary school that you cough and sneeze into your sleeve or elbow. The worst part is when people lick their fingers to open the plastic bags and then start picking through all the produce which now has their saliva all over it. I just got home from my shift at work today. Before I left, a man sneezed loudly without bothering to cover himself. Some of the spray got on my face. So even during this period of social distancing and being extra vigilant about stopping the spread of a virus, this fucking idiot couldn't be bothered to be considerate of others and cover himself. It took all the willpower I had to not punch him in the face. If I so much as said to him "sir, please sneeze into your sleeve" he could have thrown a hissy fit and complained to the manager (these people bitch and complain about anything) and I'm the one who would be suspended or fired because that's how things work in retail. I've been wondering for a long time why people act like this. Why are people so inconsiderate and irresponsible? I actually think its because we celebrate narcissism in this country. Selfishness and self-absorption permeate the culture. Think about it. How often have you heard the idea "I don't care about anyone else or what they think, I do what make ME happy." Somehow, "fuck everyone else" became a virtue here. And when I think of the spring-breakers heading to Florida's beaches in YOLO mode the whole lesson of the Corona virus pandemic really becomes clear: this pandemic wouldn't have been nearly so severe if certain people just gave a damn about other people by practicing good habits and hygiene. They chose instead to act like pigs who worship at the altar of "me."

I SAW YOU

English Bay beach green hair/green jacket...

You: On a bike but had stopped at a bench in front of a way-too-busy English Bay beach on Sunday....

SAVAGE LOVE

Savage Love: Embracing kink is the healthy option

Your last two columns and your last two podcasts were all about the pandemic. Everything everywhere is all about the pandemic right now. Can you give it a rest? For maybe a week?