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Dr. Henry, Please Cancel Christmas and New Years Eve

Theresa Tam, Bonnie Henry and other provincial health authorities should effectively "cancel" Christmas and New Years Eve gatherings in Canada. Currently in BC there are restrictions stating non-essential travel is not permitted until December 7. These orders should be extended (and widely publicized) to a date after January 2 to curb the holiday travel period. I prefer not to break my Mother's heart and tell her I do not want to travel to visit her as a personal decision. I live alone but would be required to take public transit and a ferry to visit family from Downtown Vancouver to Nanaimo. What if I am an asymptomatic carrier and spread infection to my immediate family? Many Canadians want the government to objectively step in and make this decision for us. Even if I am supposedly healthy and safe (wearing a mask the entire time while travelling), this violates the spirit of our community effort to curb the spread of Covid-19. In fact, even without orders from the government, getting together for Christmas feels extremely selfish. Surely, we can skip ONE Christmas/New Years for our collective good. I think our family members who live alone may perceive to be sad, depressed etc. because we cannot meet up with family. I'd rather be alone than feel a sense of anxiety during the ENTIRE trip and family gathering. Even those of us who live in isolated family/roommate units who can drive directly to a family members house without a plane, bus or ferry to catch shouldn't get together either. Should they be allowed to get together simply because they live in the same community or have a vehicle? No.

I would rather be alone at Christmas...

Then spend it with a family that straight up lies to me. Lies to my face. Can not just be honest, even when that is the easiest path.

I like to

travel alone. There is just something so nice about sightseeing and hanging out in an unfamiliar place by myself. It’s like I’m pure energy and I really could be anyone! And it’s interesting to see the types of people and situations I attract when I’m totally free and unchained to anything or anybody else’s perspective. Usually I attract better than what I have at home.....hmmmmm what is that about??


So many things, people, and places that no longer serve me fell by the wayside this year. I know it’s for the better but can’t help feeling a sense of loss about it regardless.

I'm a closeted mod.

I ride a motorcycle but I've always wanted to ride a vintage Italian scooter. I see them for sale online occasionally and I pine, but as an environmentally conscious person and can't get past that they have dirty smokey antiquated 2 -stroke engines.

Things some men do...

I confess. There are some things that some men do that make me cringe. Such as: putting their hand on my back to “guide” me. As if I can’t manage to get there on my own. Mansplaining topics that are either self-explanatory or otherwise well known. Even worse when they offer advice or opinions on a subject I’m either an expert in myself, or one in which they have NO experience or expertise (and in which I may also have equal knowledge). Assuming that I couldn’t possibly know anything about things like construction or mechanics, when in fact I’ve had more experience with both of those things than they have! It’s 2020. One would think that by now more males would know that females are much more accomplished and experienced in many matters that fall outside of traditional “female” roles. To those males who are still trapped in the previous century, please educate yourselves and stop behaving like an imbecile.

A COVID-19 Change

I moved closer to work in the fall of last year and when COVID hit I halted my transit usage. I began walking to work and it has saved hundreds of dollars. Thanks COVID - You are good for something.


This friend of mine is pressuring me to organize a baby shower for her. She hasn’t even asked how I’ve been doing these last 9 months. Daily, I have to maintain my own sanity: unable to see my aging parents, helping out my unemployed single parent sibling, everything in my life being canceled, worrying about my asthmatic kid getting Covid at school. It’s not my job to ensure you get presents for your baby and you’ve made it obvious that’s the only reason you want to see all the girls get together. We’re all dealing with our own sad shit. Organizing a get together for gifts is so low on my priorities and what are we supposed to do anyway, do it outside at a park?

Missed connections confession

I don’t know if people still post on the Missed Connections section of Craigslist anymore. Several years ago I made a post hoping to connect with a woman who left an impression on me at a coffee shop. I never heard back but I did get an email from a viewer who commented on my post and wished me good luck with finding that woman. Our email thread conversation unravelled into flirting and eventually we met in person. She was married and had three kids, but as a young man that didn’t phase me. Pay attention to your wives or someone else will.

Thirty Four

34 units in my building. And I'm pretty sure I am the only person without a significant other. What the hell is wrong with me? Why can't I meet someone and form relationships like normal people! I'm sick of being alone and lonely! I want to connect with people! But I don't know how. I go for walks alone at night, I see into houses, the cozy spaces, the families, the Christmas trees. I have nothing in my life that I feel connected to, no sense of home or belonging, no community. It gets worse every day and every year.


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