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A friend of mine

For a few weeks created a FetLife account he's followed over 100 people or one has followed him back...& he's bothered about I think his self esteem is low about it...he wants to explore his sexuality, so he figures Fetlife will help....I.think it's a crap site, from what I understand it's a cliquey community if you don't fit or have the looks or connections then it's a waste of time, people on it are picky mostly men with dick picks... So I don't know what to do, he should get off's not healthy one bit.

Normal is an illusion

Since life is just one change after another, when someone says “when is everything going to get back to normal?”, I think there is no “normal”. All that is, is an illusion created when something stays the same for a period of time. But eventually it’s going to change and that’s the thing that can be the hardest to accept when we’re enjoying what we have right now. Living in the present is the best way to achieve happiness.

Less is more

Social media is very hazardous to one's health. Used to be on Reddit, here, WhatsApp group chats... Cut it all out except IM for operational necessities (coordinating activities and like-so). Muuuch better. I'm an introvert, though. Maybe SM is great for extroverts - I'll never understand. But good to know where they all are. Not my tribe. If you're an introvert (outgoing or withdrawn, doesn't matter) and also an Aspie (iykyk), rethink your relationship with this stuff. Before it breaks your mind, and scrambles your emotions like so many eggs. Which will (eventually and inevitably) alter your body in ways you won't like. Walk away. Tend your own neurochemical garden. Stay clear of the afflicted "great unwashed". Delusional hysteria is contagious.

Hand over Heart

Click…I understand, just left with a shell

Not a mind reader

If you’re not willing to be open, honest, and vulnerable, don’t expect others to read your mind. It takes guts to show your real intentions and feelings, and the guys who think that acting cool and casual, or that you don’t care if you’re with them or not, makes you manly are mistaken. It makes you seem afraid and it’s a complete turn off. If you genuinely want to be with someone, ffs tell them how you really feel! If you can’t do that then don’t feel sorry for yourself if that person leaves because they don’t think you really care.

This is 40

Well, almost. I'm 39, and I'm starting to feel it. I've been slowly losing hair since 25 or so sure... but now it grows in my nose and my ears. My eyebrows are getting longer. I get Botox for forehead wrinkles. My legs hurt often. I think I sat too much during covid and no matter how much I move now I can't seem to reverse the damage. Sex used to take (much) longer...and now I get 24 hours of multidirectional peeing after. Oh yeah, and I became allergic to almost every food I used to enjoy about 5 years ago and it hasn't improved. How the heck do people live into their 70s or 80s? I'm going to be a disaster.

Caught myself doing it again

Doubling down on becoming the person they want me to be instead of doing the work to become the person I want me to be. Guiding myself gently off autopilot and getting back on course.

It's corruption, plain and simple

I am on PWD, I make very little money but am unable to do most work. I live in an sro and I was thinking about the "housing crisis". Many of the people living in my 55+ building are in their 30's and have construction jobs. Last time I checked construction jobs are well paying so how is it that these people are living in low income housing? BC housing.

Moving on

I use to write here regularly. More replies that confessions, but there is so much negativity and hurting people on here and postings that sound like my situation, but that I realize are not, so I’ve switched over to Sincerely. It’s also anonymous, but less anonymous than here. I have given up Cause it is time to Move on.

I finally realized…

I have to let you go. You will never, ever let yourself be happy in any other family configuration, other than the old school. Your complete obsession with her will never end, so just submit to it. I can’t stand watching how much power you let her have…I never thought that this is what would be, after finally having our time together…Good Luck


a long time ago

We met at Trinity B.C. you asked me a question about forgiveness and I gave you an answer which...

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