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Past The "Honeymoon" Phase

I was single for 5 years and during that time, most of my friends just ignored me in favour of their partners. Now I have one too - I can do the same, but they'll never notice.

The strategy

I’ve had to start getting on the 10 bus going the opposite direction, just to get a seat during rush hour when it gets packed. The worst is at the holt Renfrew and pacific centre stops. People get on whatever bus takes them up the street and don’t leave room for those who need to take the 10 beyond broadway. Adds 10 min to my journey but at least my head isn’t in someone’s armpit.


When I go out to a restaurant on a date, I don't want to be seated at the end of a big long table full of strangers.

How to ask a man out

In today’s dating environment, you may have found that man are reluctant to approach women since an unwanted advance (ie the woman does not wish to date the man) might be perceived as threatening. Setting aside the question of whether this is a valid fear, it is obvious that in such a climate women will need to approach men they would wish to date. However, I’ve realised that women have no idea how to ask a man out. Hinting that they would like the man to ask them out by sending a friend request on Facebook or commenting positively on an Instagram post is usually seen by men as just a friend request or a positive comment and not loaded with hidden wishes for romantic engagement. You have to be more direct If not already engaged in conversation, start with a greeting (“hi” or “hello” will suffice). Follow this up with “I was wondering if you would like to go for” and then suggest an activity which would allow the both of you to spend a while engaged in quiet, one-on-one conversation. Often, this could be “a coffee” (this implies any beverage that can be purchased at the average cafe), “lunch”, “dinner”, “a walk”. Then finish with “with me”. Given that they’ve probably heard this exactly zero times from a woman in their life, they might be surprised and feel the need to confirm that you are asking them out. Just say “yes”. That’s it. The rest should follow naturally. Either they will accept and an exchange of contact information will occur followed by picking a date and time. Or they may graciously decline. Usually, they will feel the need to cite a reason such as an existing romantic partner or preference for a different gender. This is done because they realise that a flat refusal can be damaging to one’s ego. It is very rare that they might not be gracious in their refusal but they will NOTthreaten violence (either by themselves, a male colleague, or bar security staff), insult your appearance, or feel the need to share negative preconceptions with you. Thank you for reading and looking forward to a happier, more open, more egalitarian dating climate.

Freshman 15

I just sit here reading and then go to work. I’m getting so fat :( How am I going to get laid if I’m fat?

May well be

Coded messages all over these pages. Question is what makes you think they're for you?

been a while

It been about six months since we last saw each other, and about five since i last heard from you, it didnt end we between us, bad timing, and fear, i dont think about you as much as i use to, but i still think about you. mainly, just wondering what your up to, and hoping that your doing well, i hope and wish that your doing well and that 2019 has been great for you so far.

A pattern

Every time my boyfriend spends time with his "friend" (actually his ex, who refuses to meet me, 6 months into our relationship, despite the fact that she dumped him), I pick a fight with him about their "friendship". I don't do it on purpose, but it's definitely a pattern. I'm trying really hard not to start an argument this time, but I really just want to tell him off.


Finally got out over the weekend, met with some friends at a place in burnaby, just for some drinks and appy's, chatt/catch up. bill comes due, didnt tip, why should i? service was crap, place wasnt busy, and it took the server about 20 to come see us take our drink order, another 20 or so before she came back with drinks, ordered food at teh same time, she brought it to us and it was only just above warm, and wrong as well, so sent back. we all had our own bills, in about two hours i only had three drinks {as the server hardly came to our table} food order was basically cold and wrong and had to send back. didnt even get any water, and we did ask, None of us where asked how everything was, just a attitude of, hurry up and order , and when stuff was served, here you go and puff vanishing act. even had to flag down a diff server to get our bills, who i guess, told the one who was serving us that we wanted the bill. why should you get a tip for just showing up and doing a crappy job? attitude, service sucked, you want a tip, do your job, dont just show up for a pay check, and expect that you'll be tipped no matter what. FYI i've done you'r job, two plus years, you want tips, then do your job with out the "piss on you for showing up and making me work" attitude.


Back ally slow cooker

Bridget. You were donating an unwanted kitchen appliance just out side your door in the west end...

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