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There’s no guarantee

What do some people assume that if someone agrees to date you or have sex with you once or twice, that somehow they have a right to expect that that person somehow owes them something? I’ve had the experience where I was relentlessly pursued by a guy and finally agreed to try dating him, even though I had reservations, and made him well aware of them. After a very few dates I realized that he wasn’t for me, and I told him that right away to ensure that he could move on with someone else. Instead he lost his mind and stalked me. A couple of other guys automatically assumed that they had some type of ownership rights with me after we had sex. The same guys who had fervently agreed that there were no strings attached before the deed was done, and then went ballistic when they realized that I wasn’t interested in continuing to see them. There are no guarantees in dating. Other than being a decent person and treating the other person kindly and fairly, they don’t owe you a thing. Having sex between two consenting adults doesn’t mean that you own them or that they have to agree to keep doing it just because you might want to. I’m a straight woman so my own experience has been with men, but I know that men also experience this with some women. I look at dating as just a test drive so to speak. It’s not a relationship unless both people agree that it is. Get that through your heads people.

I confess

My confession is that if I could go back in time to before I became a parent, I wouldn’t do it.

Lockdown Haircut

My hair fits in a man-bun now, it no-one will ever see it!

Food truck feel

I personally don't like the food trucks downtown. They're expensive anyways and the food isn't that good. Why can't we have some real cheap but good lunch spots downtown? Oh yeah! Real estate prices! So... are the super expensive restaurants that we cannot afford on CERB? Will their mortgages be delayed? Ohhh yeah, baby! We won't be able to get cheaper places in there, even if that's what the market demands. Rigged system for rich people.

Global economic forecast

In my doomscrolling I see companies like United, David’s Tea, etc are laying off thousands of workers. Then I read an article that said high unemployment will continue to 2022. 2022 people. They just skipped an entire year. I have trouble focusing and feel so bleak. I feel like despite my safety in BC that there will be a global freefall. How does one prepare for what is to come.

How is this possible?

My ex and I had this bizarre connection from day one, where we could literally complete each other’s sentences and were frequently thinking exactly the same thing at the same time. I do believe in psychic phenomena because I’ve experienced it for my whole life, but this type of connection with someone else has never happened to me before. We’ve had a very tumultuous relationship for a long time, both of us being equally strong and stubbornly independent. Hence the ex part. But seriously, how is it that virtually every time that I’m in a very dark place and feeling so lost and alone and missing them SO much, I get a text from them? Wtaf? How can two people be so close and yet so far apart at the same time? It tears me apart because I’m never happy without them and yet when we’re together we clash so much! How can we fix this so that we can both agree to be together but still be ourselves? I suspect this will never happen, but my heart just won’t give it up and it doesn’t seem to matter how long we’re apart, there’s no other person that I can imagine being with.

A kiss can be even deadlier

Its tragic when a love dies, or it proves to have never really been genuine. With that said its more than unnecessary to drunkenly try to antagonize that someone late night with dares and scrutinize their decision to stay away. Theres no sincerity or even romance in that. Heck, thats not even trying.

Dr. Bonnie Henry

She reminds me of Isabelle from Animal Crossing.

Off Loading Friends

Since Covid started I have been seeing some friends on a regular basis in an outdoor area, very socially distanced of course. But over the last few weeks they have been going out, like out out. Last week I was invited to a bar for a party. I declined but they all went. Now I'm thinking WTAF?! If they put themselves at risk ok, but do I now put myself at risk hanging with them, even outside. They talk about being safe yet they are being so called safe out and about at a busy bar? Now I have a dilemma do I just stop hanging out with the only people I thought I respected? We are not out of this and there are new cases every day, yet people are taking big risks. I have lost respect for almost everyone I know, now this.

Finally found it after 14 years

My boyfriend bought me a vibrator in university. When I was moving out of my apartment after my degree, I wrapped it in a bag with a ton of tape, labelled it "electronics", and put it into one of the boxes. Some of my stuff came home with me to my parents' house, and some went into my grandmother's basement for storage. When I was unpacking, I couldn't find the vibrator, and I've been terrified since 2006 that someone might find it. Over the years I've ransacked my grandmother's basement countless times in fear that she might someday happen upon it, immediately know it was mine, and be completely scandalized. Since then I have of course come to realize that it's nothing to be ashamed of and that I shouldn't be so mortified about it, but I think I just got so used to worrying about it that it would still keep me awake at night sometimes. It's what I think of every time I hear the term "object permanence". It's been torturing me for so many years... Cut to yesterday. My sister texts me a photo of a bag wrapped in tape labelled "electronics", which she found when cleaning out the basement at my mom and dad's. She has heard this story before and she knew exactly what it was when she found it. This is the best possible outcome, and last night I slept better than I have in 14 years. I am finally free.


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