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Is everyone else doing the full day?

As I become more distant and isolated, my work ethnic is slipped. I can happily close my laptop after 7 hours of work now... I just don’t like the job or culture but obviously this is a shitty time to quit. Ugh.... maybe 2 or 3 months of this and then I can escape?

A riddle

Trying to solve my dating problems feels like a riddle I'll never figure out. Everything I try doesn't work and it's frustrating. The solution is so illogical that I can't come up with it and the second someone tells me the answer I'll be like "Of course, why didn't I think of that?!"

Expiration Date

At what age as a woman do you start to feel a more desperate need to settle? The pandemic hasn’t helped my case but as a 28 year old female I’m starting to feel my options are fewer and fewer as time goes on. I feel I have a lot to offer in a relationship and never expect a man to pay for anything but I would like to have that companionship and stability and to start a family. Am I running out of time? Are all the decent guys taken? I’m on hinge and all the guys are “ethically non monogamous” or “looking for something casual” in their 30s like seriously you guys still aren’t ready for commitment??


With more time to think these days, I came to the realization that I’ve spent way too many years pining after this person or another, heartbroken over this person or another. It seemed “special” every time, but in truth I mostly just very badly wanted to be validated as “wanted” by anyone half-decent. I overlooked red flags, compromised my values, and clung onto relationships way past their expiration dates. This is something I’m determined to finally work through now. Sending love to anyone else struggling with low self-worth and anxious attachment.


Believe it or not, but the one bit that always gives me the most trouble is trimming my toenails. It usually takes such awkward positioning to get the clippers where I want them, especially for my right pinky toe. Now I get why less flexible and/or older folks need help with this.

Mother's Day

After learning the extent of my mother's financial abuse of me I am finding Mother's Day ads to be upsetting. I know I am in the minority of those who have/had a shitty mother and I'm not ragging on moms out there. I just feel terrible that mine meant the world to me and she betrayed my trust. Yes, there is a court case to seek restitution. Unfortunately the justice system isn't so much about justice, it's about forcing negotiation with those that hurt you in more than one way.

Kimmy's Convenience

I knew a girl. She worked in a bar. I told her one night that I loved her. She snapped back "is that what you told -----?" She shut me down because she thought I was a playboy. It's true that I had had feelings for----- but I actually never told her. After she said that I was really stung and never tried with her again. Many years later I still dream about her. Christ does that ever hurt! All this time and I've still never felt like that about anyone. The lesson has no endeth


So far I've grown a one week beard. There's a substantial amount after one week. I've only ever grown a two week beard.

Words to remember and live by....I do

Beer before liquor, never been sicker Liquor before beer, have no fear Whiskey is risky but it makes the ladies frisky Don't be dumb and mix wine and rum


Hiking Smiles

We passed you running /hiking on the north shore. You caught up, then we caught up again. At the...


Savage Love: Husband’s desire for FinDom abuse confuses wife

He's dominant with her but sends thousands of dollars to a dominatrix.

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