I was seeing this guy that I was completely in love with on and off for a couple of years, but he was never willing to move anything to the next level, and he never said he loved me either. I was losing interest in being available for this guy’s constant game playing, so when another guy started showing a lot of interest in me, I was intrigued. I wound up ending things with Mr unavailable (not because of the other guy, but because we just fought too much and nothing was changing) and was single for a couple of months before I agreed to go out with the other guy just to see how I would feel. After 2-3 dates with the other guy I realized that I just wasn’t feeling it, so I stopped seeing him, and never dated him again. The first guy and I wound up seeing each other again a few months later, but it never led to anything solid and we split up for good. I recently had a conversation with him about what went down between us and he still believes that I “cheated” on him. But how can you cheat on someone who treats you like a casual f-buddy? He even called me his friend, not his girlfriend, but he still expected me to act like his wife or something! The audacity of someone to think that they own you, even if they don’t really want you themselves, is unbelievable.
I am beyond upset with the Residential Tenancy Branch. I was given a eviction notice and I disputed it. I had a hearing awhile back and my Landlord who owns 20 properties was treated way better than me. The Landlord never gave me his address and by the time I got it going through the proper channels it took forever and then I had to send it by Registered Mail and he wasn't there to receive it and picked it up 5 days later and by then my evidence was late. So they didn't hear my evidence at all because its late. Meanwhile he only provided texts and evidence in such a manner that it made me seem like I was crazy. He didn't do anything to fix like 10 items but only showed the evidence when he fixed things to make it seem like he was doing everything to help me. There was literally one instance when he was scheduled to fix things and I had to cancel and he used that to say I wouldn't provide him access to the suite. Then he shows receipts from Home Depot for a new exhaust fan, a new toilet, a new kitchen sink, etc to show he purchased the items but I wouldn't let him in the suite to fix them. I am trying to explain to them that he owns 20 properties so the receipts don't mean anything because they could be for the other properties but they didn't listen. He came in the summer when its like 35 degrees and I was wearing a sports bra and booty shorts and he has this text to me where he said I was dressed inappropriately. I can dress however I want in my place. He provided something like 100 pages of evidence that was dated, with page numbers, and a table of contents. He even had like a timeline of events. I just thought it would be more like a discussion instead of a full blown court case.
I am just so upset and don't know what to do because he got an order of possession so I am evicted.
I’m done with fake anything or crumbs of love and affection. I’m totally capable of living alone and no way I’m going to sacrifice the peace I’ve finally found for somebody else’s comfort. I don’t care if they think I should settle for a half-assed facsimile of a relationship just because they think it’s better than being alone. Not for me it isn’t. I’ve felt more alone in a bad relationship than I’ve ever felt by myself.
For some reason, this has been socially accepted once again. There was a time where sexy and cute outfits were shunned as being slutty and degrading women. However, feminists today seem to get with it more than not. I like how women feel comfortable dressing up in 60s cos-play Star Trek uniforms now. There's something very fun about it.
This morning I saw a heartbreaking sight: a man on Ontario Street in about his 30s yanked a dog's chain and pulled so hard the dog spun backwards. I saw you do this a few times, and you growled and screamed angrily NO. As you marched fast down the sidewalk like a big important man. You know what? You're not. Your poor dog - a beautiful brown fluffy border collie/lab cross with a red harness - just wanted to sniff the ground. And every time you yanked the chain your smart dog thought it was a game, and it smiled. :( Dude. I watched you go down the alley. If I see you again I'll film you and call the BCSPCA. You're hurting your dog and everyone can see you. Get help.
I’m trying. Connecting and building community isn’t easy. Finding the people who feel a certain way and resonate. It takes time. But I just want to feel like home. Like Cheers. Where everyone knows you at a level no one else gets to. It’s expensive in more ways than one. Presently, I learn through suffering.
I like calling out. As I get older, I find I have less tolerance for people's bullshit and say what is on my mind. Without communication there's little chance of change.
Telling someone you’re sorry they feel that way or you’re sorry they’re in pain isn’t an apology. If someone has told you in explicit detail what it was that you did that caused them to not want to be with you, ignoring all of that and refusing to acknowledge or accept any accountability is classic sociopathic behaviour. So if this happens to you with more than one person, and you still don’t get it, I think you’re the problem.
I sometimes comment on confessions but have never had one of my own posted. I expect negative feedback, but I am really interested in a reality check. I am going to keep everything gender-neutral because the dynamic is what matters, not the individuals. Am I being too sensitive or am I seeing a problem? Here goes: I have a very very close friend who is very insecure and needs a lot of affirmation and support. I give those things freely. All I ask in return is good company and conversation. This friend is also a very kind and emotionally open person so I enjoy the friendship. I include the friend in my own social activities and have nurtured connections between this friend and the rest of my (less close) friends. I take a “more the merrier” approach to socializing. Here's what bugs me: My friend and I share a passion for a certain hobby. The friend has built a huge network around this hobby and I've asked if I could join in and meet some of the people in the network. EVERY SINGLE TIME they get together, I am put off, lied to, left out, or “forgotten” to be invited. I always let it roll off my back and say something like, “Oh, darn, I wish I'd known. That sounds like it would have been fun.” This friend constantly keeps me sequestered from the rest of these people. I feel insulted and used. We have been “besties” for 15 years, hanging out together – always alone – at least twice a week. The friend truly thinks that I don't see what is going on. I suspect the friend thinks that I will somehow become more important to the hobby group, although I would never let that happen. Is it time to take the hint and ditch the relationship? What am I doing to deserve this exclusion? I can't bring it up because the friend's insecure self will just deny it.
All of my friends are either married or in serious relationships. I always feel like the 3rd wheel and have found that they are planning couples outings without me or playdates for their kids. I am 37 years old and I really want to have children and marry a good man. I don't know why I can't seem to meet a guy who doesn't just want a one night stand.
I feel like I have been left behind.