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Stevie Wonder at Aretha Franklin's funeral

I've always loved Stevie's music but didn't really think too fully about his lyrics. Wow! He's one of the great inspirational poets of all time: ................................. "As around the sun the earth knows she's revolving And the rosebuds know to bloom in early may Just as hate knows love's the cure You can rest your mind assure That I'll be loving you always As now can't reveal the mystery of tomorrow But in passing will grow older every day Just as all that's born is new ......... (Until we dream of life and life becomes a dream) Did you know that true love asks for nothing No no her acceptance is the way we pay Did you know that life has given love a guarantee To last through forever and another day Just as time knew to move on since the beginning And the seasons know exactly when to change Just as kindness knows no shame Know through all your joy and pain That I'll be loving you always

Point of No Return

Boundaries. When you care about someone it's hard to not cave, so I had to create a limit, a point of no return. She couldn't respect my need for space, finding her ego starved. So I told myself if she baits me again and comes up empty that's it. And what a hook it was too. I was tricked as always and there was nothing there. So I miss her, every day, but I couldn't respect myself if it had gone any other way.

feels so good

when I pick my nose, and yank out a long hair

To my now ex-friend...

Your personality changed the moment you met him. The strong, empowered woman turned into a simpering stepford version of your previous self. Everyone noticed it, but no one had the nerve to say anything to you. I didn’t like or trust him the moment I met him and was concerned that perhaps you were more in love with the fact that he was besotted with you than the man himself. If our friendship wasn’t strong enough to withstand the possibility that, he too is fallible then perhaps our friendship was one of convenience. You needed a single partner in crime until you were no longer single, and then I was disposable. Sadly, people placed on pedestals tend to eventually fall off. Your constant public posts of adoration strike me as a case of “the lady doth protest too much”. Exactly who are you trying to convince? I suppose that the upside is that I no longer have to pretend that I can stand him or suppress eye rolls at his cheeseball behaviours.

A message from your future daddy

Sure you say you're straight, you only date women, but don't worry, I'll change your mind sooner or later & baby you won't regret it, you'll be mine & mine only xoxo

God Help Me

This morning my phone was cut off, and my truck broke down. Payday is still a week away, and I'm completely broke. Have to drive me and a buddy that doesn't have a ride to work on Monday, but have no way to get in touch with him. Just waiting for lightning to strike me dead now. :'(

We can easily live on $75 a week for food

All this fuss about Phillip Couillard is hot air. Three of us in our house Rice, noodles, beans, green veggies, milk and butter. We make our own bread ( the "no" knead way) it's easy. Good quality coffee (medaglia d'oro). For protein we have salmon, beef or chicken.. not a lot but enough to fill us up Typical day is Cheese or marmalade on toast for brekkie with coffee Noodles and green veggies for lunch ( as much as you want) with tea or coffee Rice or Noodles, fresh green vegetables, beans and meat or fish for dinner. There's plenty of money left over for junk candy just to keep us honest and more than enough for the occasional 2fer at McD's. (I don't care what anybody says, it's fucking good tasting food, especially their breakfasts!) It's amazing how little you have to spend if you cut out prepared foods. Stop yer whining!

I had dreams about my ex-wife last night.

I wish my fucking subconscious would leave me alone and let me move on with my life and find some small level of true happiness and contentment again....sheesh!

I’m ALWAYS paying attention

Don’t equate my silence for agreement, acceptance, or approval. I’m not a confrontational person. I also tend to give the people I care about the benefit of the doubt much more than I should, based on my experience. I’m often simply giving people enough rope to hang themselves apparently. I wait and wait, seemingly tolerating the behaviour, with the hope that perhaps they’re just having a rough day and this isn’t typical. If the behaviour doesn’t improve though, I’m going to be gone. Your first clue that I’m very strongly considering the situation is when I get very quiet. Depending on the circumstances and the type of relationship, I may just quietly slip away and stop reaching out. I may do “gray rock”. Or, there might be one of those final straw moments where I get really angry. I don’t believe that it’s my responsibility to constantly call someone on their attitude/behaviour. I expect that a mature adult should understand that certain types of behaviour are generally frowned upon by the majority of us. So, if you’re behaving badly, don’t be surprised by my disappearance from your life.

Real confession: anxious about my values

I find my values and philosophy creating obstacles in my social life, as well as general hindrances when travelling. Its impact causes me grief, I feel lonely at times, with less social opportunity. I really appreciate new people who make an effort to cater to my values. But I will avoid social outings sometimes so I don't have to explain myself. There are many times I want to quit my values to fit in, but then find some strength to keep in line. I'm generally happy, good standing financially and physically, but my vegan lifestyle can get in the way. P.s. "find other people like you" doesn't work if there are none in a small town or an area where there are none. Or if they are simply significantly different in culture (think music, lifestyle etc, vegans aren't all the same, I like hockey and capitalism).

Now made it big

Now that I'm successful, I realise how many women out there(not all of you sweethearts), are so shallow. After I became a dentistt, lots of girls who had previously ignored me, had added me on Facebook, initiated more conversations, and conversations with strangers seem to flow a different way if they know of my success. Thankfully, I met a nice young women before I had success. She's beautiful and one the best people I know with the biggest heart. She loved me when I was a "loser" or a "lesser". I'm glad to share my success with someone good. This goes for douchebag guys too, thinking pumping weights and making decent money early on means you can objectify women is part of the problem. You types of people are meant for each other. For the young women out there, look for loyal humble men. Cheers

Greater Vancouver, is it worth it?

I hesitantly moved away for the first time for school years ago. I had intentions of returning, as I would be a professional making well over six figures, and even more once I owned a business. However, after being away and living in other Canadian cities, from small town to big, I just can't justify working twice as much for half as much (I can work 10-15 years in the east and retire or 30-35 years In GVRD). The surroundings are decent in vancouver, but in small towns it's even better. There is freedom to explore not just be locked down in over crowded hiking trails. Housing and salary is something I won't go into, but the grass is so much greener. If you don't move across Canada you won't meet the characters from the Maritimes or Quebeccers, in essence you won't meet all of Canada. If I didn't have such good friends and family, it wouldn't be so hard to completely cut GVRD and BC from my life. So I have to ask, is it worth it?


When I was young my dad would tell me two things. 1. Figure things out for yourself. 2. Life's not fair. He would repeat these when I would complain that someone at work got a promotion I didn't think they deserved or if I didn't know how to do something. At the time I was pissed at him but over the years I've recognized that it's made me into someone who can handle almost any situation.


I suffer for my art, the art of letting go.

So I had a lunch with my buddy today

We're both 60+ males chewing the fat over lunch and we've both lived in Vancouver all our lives. So I asked him, "Are people getting more rude and more disrespectful or am I just turning into a cranky old fucker?" His answer was, "It's a little of both." OK, I accept that. But Vancouver was a "friendlier" place a short time ago.


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