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Poly isn't healthy or sustainable

I was part of the "poly community" for about 10 years, and: 1. It's kind of a cult 2. It was usually super misogynistic 3. None of the relationships I saw were healthy, happy, long-term functional. It's a great system in theory for casually dating ethically when you're highly independent, but every attempt at long-term /more serious I saw basically broke down into: 1. People who weren't right for each other but didnt want to be alone while they kept looking 2. People who were too dysfunctional for a relationship spreading that dysfunction out between multiple people so it was manageable 3. One partner who was an asshole who traditionally would have just cheated but instead gaslights the partner they dont respect into being ok with it 4. Couples who were super into each other using other people as 2-dimensional sex toys / free counselors

The state of the world

Why are we all FORCED to like everyone and everything about the world or we are bad people. Just because I feel I don't agree with national selfie day or any other day I have to keep it to myself or be told I'm a bad person... Example - I'm straight. I am SO happy to live somewhere where people can be in any type of relationship they want to be in. This makes me feel good that people can be in Canada and totally be themselves! Way to go human race. BUT - Just because you don't like someone of the opposite sex or YOU are confused about YOUR sex why does this mean I have to go to great lengths to "support" you? I read a post saying if a bakery won't do a cake for a gay marriage every straight person should boycott them. Why? They just don't agree with your lifestyle, big deal. Some people don't agree with drinking, or Islam or whatever it may be. It's ok. We don't all have to agree with what the other people or peoples are doing but if you're not hurting anyone else why should you be chastised for thinking differently.

Going Dutch

Just because you want to move on doesn’t mean all the things your did are forgiven. You think simply not talking to someone is the “adult” way to handle things. It’s simply the most cowardly way to ignore the ramifications of your own choices. Life goes on. But you will forever be remembered as a weak little person who could not think or act with decency or respect.

If The Cap Fits

I have other hats, but my favourite one is from one of those trendy but overpriced corporate cratfy beer places with edgy slogans. In the merhchandise section, I just put the hat on and walked out.

Spare Change

The only people I give money to on the street is people from Women's Rape Relief.

CBC is so strange these days.

It seems every single story is trying to convince us we should be overjoyed to pay more taxes and make less wages?!

Can't get over it...

Two years ago I was sexually assaulted. I went to the police and they did nothing. There wassnt enough evidence to lay charges so the person walks away. I'm haunted by what they did to me. I can't do things I love, i can't trust people. I want to get over it and close these wounds but I cannot. I tried to get my story out as a warning about this person but most people told me to keep my drama to myself and didn't want to believe me. What should I do? How do I heal?

Executives want to help, but they feel trapped

The further I go up the corporate ladder, the less I think any of this can be fixed. It's easy from the outside to pick a bad guy and think if they just stopped being evil everything would be better, but 90% of the CEOs I talk to want to do the right thing - but then always have to add "And of course cut costs / profit is the bottom line". They're not soulless, they're just terrified of they dont put the company first, they'll get fired, and a lot of them are terribly insecure. Fuck the people who complain about housing taxes tho. Nobody needs more than one home when the average person cant even find a shack.

We've Pretty Much Done It Already

Sure you rejected me. I guess. I mean you did cut me out of your life, marry someone else, have his child and never speak to me again. But I've been hard at work the whole time visualizing us having sex daily for years now and I have an exceptionally vivid imagination so there's really nothing that hasn't been fully explored even if we didn't PHYSICALLY do it. So, if you change your mind about things it wouldn't be a big decision anyway, so don't stress it, we could even fit it in during a lunch break or if we share an elevator.

I am totally going to UBC

To see Ben Shapiro! You little SJWs are weakening and cannot stop us! Hahahha! — a UBC alumni

BC Hydro Bill

I was watching the news and BC Hydro is going to charge everyone another $0.25/month to be put in some type giant pool of money to help those who are behind in their hydro bills. Seems like a good idea in principal but 1/3 of this money is going to be eaten up by their bloated bureaucracy to run this program. Then it goes on to say BC Hydro has increased its rates by 25% over the last 5 years which is far more than inflation and there are literally a huge amount of people making over $100,000 a year there. This is the same place that for years gave essentially every single employee a $1000 bonus for showing up. I think BC Hydro needs to clean their own house before charging the rest of us in some type of phony altruistic scheme because I can smell the manure a mile away.

You’re a coward and an awful friend.

You know you hurt her right? Instead of being an adult and telling her you didn’t want to be friends you just deleted her from your life. 13 years. I met you at one of her parties. She always had nice things to say about you and then you go and hurt her like this? It’s been a couple years and she still gets upset and she doesn’t deserve it, you do! You play victim and woe is me on your social media but you threw away a person who would have stood by you through anything. And the sad thing is she still misses you and would do anything to talk to you again. I however know you’re an asshole for what you did and I hope karma comes back at you for the pain you caused someone who had been nothing but loyal to you since the day you met.

I SAW YOU

The SkyTrain from Coq

I saw you really dark long jet black I think , but you walked toward me . I wonder were we both...

SAVAGE LOVE

Savage Love: Men making mouth music mistakes

I was discussing my lack of oral sex with Sam and he said he’d be willing to “help me out”.