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I'm a 40 year old man

And I still like to make blanket forts...aaahhh watch out for the lava, jump on this pillow.

What if

I am 34. Many people my age have kids, mortgages, car payments, etc. Sometimes I think about if I would want to have a family. But I don't think very long about it, because even if I did want one I don't think I could afford it. So when the question comes up about settling down and having kids, I sort of see it as irrelevant. I'm just trying to make sure I have the rent, one month at a time.


I have $54,000 in student loan debt and $8000 in credit card debt and I am suffocated under this debt. I can only make the basic payments and whats left over isn't enough. My job just doesn't pay enough. I am scared to tell my boyfriend because its so embarrassing.

Who thought this would be my cure?

I confess I've had a fairly serious drinking problem most of my life. I've had stretches of sobriety here and there but it's been a very rocky road with multiple arrests, lost jobs and ruined personal relationships. I took early retirement a few months ago and have not had a drink since. I haven't wanted a drink since. This caught me by surprise because I thought the increase in idle time might escalate my cravings but it's been the opposite. I'm feeling at peace and content and have no desire to "escape" into a bottle at all. I am so grateful I can hardly describe the joy in my life now.

I used to be a Con Artist...

... I would tell people they had to pay me money to acquire permission to work, and some of them did. I didn't feel bad about it, though, I just told them 'I am the Government, and this is called a license fee.'

2019 Fiancees

The term fiancée doesn't mean anything anymore. When I was younger, most divorce happened in the mid 30s and above. My generation, I'm mid 30s and most people I know now have had multiple fiancées and almost use the term to over embellish boyfriend/girlfriend. It's gotten to the point that when someone tells me they have a new fiancée I almost assume it won't end in marriage. None of them do.

Thanks Confessions!

Trauma bonds are brutal. It's been difficult talking with friends about my situation. When your bond to an old love re-awakens, that can be kind of nice to reminisce. But when you think you can feel someone experiencing something traumatic, and it claws at your triceps when you sit down, with no access or communication, it's crazy-making. It's helplessness, and I've thrashed about. For story sharing, and Great Science, I've had 2.5 illusionary 'sympathic' traumas over the last 3 years. It's hard not to be frustrated when you don't know where these things are coming from. Mark Twain comes to mind: "I've been through some terrible things in my life. Some of which actually happened." Thanks for your support over the years Confessions! You're advice is janky at best, but it's cheaper than a movie and there's free coffee if your roommate's got some at home. I'm ready to move forward and I'll save the nitty-gritty for a counsellor or therapist when I want to treat myself. Y'all are alright.

Staying fit for life

I never thought I’d be one of those women who ends up not being fit and strong in my old age. I was so active for the majority of my life, until a chronic illness hit me a few years ago. Since then I’ve become almost completely inactive, because I’m not supposed to put too much strain on my heart. It’s gotten so bad that I can’t bear to look at myself naked anymore. So this past l week I decided that enough is enough, and I’ve started just stretching and planking, and doing some body-weight exercises in my home. What’s amazing is how fast it’s coming back! All the years of keeping fit have really benefited me. Muscle memory is real. I went from not being able to plank for more than 15 seconds at once 4 days ago, to doing over 60 seconds now. I can do 50 squats too. So to all of you young people who think that you’ve got time to get fit, please don’t keep putting it off. When you’re old and possibly alone, you’re really going to need your body to be strong so that you can remain independent. Trust me, it WILL matter.


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