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Bad (non)parent?

My gf thinks she wants kids, and im pretty sure i dont. People tell me its weird for a woman to not have that maternal need for a child, but i dont think its that. I like kids, i just dont want my own. Part of the reason is that i really like my time and freedom. Another that i dont want to always come second. My gf will inevitably put the kid ahead of everything, and i dont want to remain in the shadows. Is this a common concern for people? Or am i insecure?

A drink a day

Keeps me sparkling for the camera....

Lumps of Gravity

Guess it's lucky I'm married because I've become such a bitter asshole I don't think I could attract anyone else anyway.

No one, nothing

I checked the most recent order. It's now been made clear that people who live alone are not allowed to see anyone who does not also live alone. For me, this means I no longer have anyone I am legally allowed to see. Meanwhile, all of my usual mental health supports have been taken away, as those workers have been redeployed by VCH for COVID. Guess I'll die?

No More Dishes!

Because of covid I lost my job. It’s difficult to find work in my field so I have been collecting CERB and EI. The amount I am paid barely covers my bills so I have to eat every single meal at home in order to get by without running out of money. I am single and live alone. I am so tired of cooking for myself. I also can’t afford to buy anything pre packaged or any specialty items so my diet has been consisting of vegetables, canned beans and rice or pasta. I am a good cook so I can make my meals taste good but I can’t stand this anymore. I’m bored of cooking and just wish I had someone to share a meal with. Even if I still did the cooking but had someone to eat and clean up with it would be more enjoyable. I’m getting down in the dumps and avoid eating so I don’t have to cook and deal with the mountain of dishes multiple times a day. If you live in a family or with housemates that share the load during this pandemic you are lucky. Living alone has its moments but being alone all the time is not healthy.

Dr. Henry, Please Cancel Christmas and New Years Eve

Theresa Tam, Bonnie Henry and other provincial health authorities should effectively "cancel" Christmas and New Years Eve gatherings in Canada. Currently in BC there are restrictions stating non-essential travel is not permitted until December 7. These orders should be extended (and widely publicized) to a date after January 2 to curb the holiday travel period. I prefer not to break my Mother's heart and tell her I do not want to travel to visit her as a personal decision. I live alone but would be required to take public transit and a ferry to visit family from Downtown Vancouver to Nanaimo. What if I am an asymptomatic carrier and spread infection to my immediate family? Many Canadians want the government to objectively step in and make this decision for us. Even if I am supposedly healthy and safe (wearing a mask the entire time while travelling), this violates the spirit of our community effort to curb the spread of Covid-19. In fact, even without orders from the government, getting together for Christmas feels extremely selfish. Surely, we can skip ONE Christmas/New Years for our collective good. I think our family members who live alone may perceive to be sad, depressed etc. because we cannot meet up with family. I'd rather be alone than feel a sense of anxiety during the ENTIRE trip and family gathering. Even those of us who live in isolated family/roommate units who can drive directly to a family members house without a plane, bus or ferry to catch shouldn't get together either. Should they be allowed to get together simply because they live in the same community or have a vehicle? No.

I would rather be alone at Christmas...

Then spend it with a family that straight up lies to me. Lies to my face. Can not just be honest, even when that is the easiest path.

I like to

travel alone. There is just something so nice about sightseeing and hanging out in an unfamiliar place by myself. It’s like I’m pure energy and I really could be anyone! And it’s interesting to see the types of people and situations I attract when I’m totally free and unchained to anything or anybody else’s perspective. Usually I attract better than what I have at home.....hmmmmm what is that about??


So many things, people, and places that no longer serve me fell by the wayside this year. I know it’s for the better but can’t help feeling a sense of loss about it regardless.

I'm a closeted mod.

I ride a motorcycle but I've always wanted to ride a vintage Italian scooter. I see them for sale online occasionally and I pine, but as an environmentally conscious person and can't get past that they have dirty smokey antiquated 2 -stroke engines.


Flying Beaver Server (Beaver 95 shirt)

You were my server that night. You are absolutely stunning. Brunette, beautiful eyes, would love...


Dan Savage: Long-distance lesbian relationship needs rules

A letter writer is troubled that her girlfriend wants to see what other women are like.

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