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Distance pricing is punishment for those that can't afford to live in Vancouver but still work there. Thanks .

Newsflash

No-one "deserves" a relationship, so stop bellyaching about not having one and work on your Selves, especailly if you think you need to have kids to be fulfilled in life.

To deadbeat on Father's Day

I am sickened every time I see you post about being a dad on social media. I wish I could post on your wall, on a real wall, on a billboard, or anywhere at all the things you have done to destroy your children. How you told your eldest to drop out of school at 16 to help you pay rent in an apartment you couldn't afford. How you have manipulated and abused all of your kids mentally. How you have only seen your youngest 5 times in 8 years. How you have destroyed their self-esteem and their understanding of what a good man or a loving father should be. Go ahead and pat yourself on the back on your social media. Tell everyone how much you love your kids. Yeah, those kids you haven't seen or spoken to in years. I hope smart people can see you are nothing but a deadbeat man-child, and I hope and pray Karma hits you hard.

Prayer for Love

So this may sound crazy, but my mom who is very religious (Sikh) often tells me that sometimes when we want something and god isn't giving it to us, god will listen to the prayers of others. In other words, a complete stranger can connect with god on your behalf- its like the stranger is a liason or a good luck charm. I would like to ask you wonderful strangers out there to pray for me- that I find love and happiness. I know it is selfish, but it would mean so much to me. I am currently suffering from low self esteem, body image issues, chronic pain, depression, work stress, financial stress and terminal illness of a loved one. I am broken and need help. I am a 29 year old single female, who has never dated, had a boyfriend, anything. I am kind, have worked hard my whole life, contribute to my community, and treat others with respect. I feel so lonley, I want nothing more than to find peace, love, confidence, happiness and a spark in life. Please pray for me. From the bottom of my heart, thank you. -N

I am Not Rich

I own two houses with assessed values of 4.5 million and 2.7 million. I am sick and tired of people in the media portraying people like myself as wealthy. I have worked extremely hard for this. Working 7 days a week at two jobs with no vacations for years. Most young people have no idea what it takes to own property and save vast amounts of money or how much you have to sacrifice. You have to sacrifice vacations and going out drinking with your buddies. I see you on the weekends drinking and in the morning driving around in expensive financed cars you can't afford wearing designer clothes bought on credit. Young guy at my work is driving around in a brand new BMW and drinking expensive $5 coffee everyday and eating lunch out everyday and going to clubs on weekends and running up bar tabs paying one credit card bill with another credit card and he has the audacity to say they are entitled to own houses without putting in the work. He's getting evicted from his rental and he doesn't even care. Bragging to his friends about how the landlord can't touch him for six months and how uncool the landlord is. If you are a young person and are not working two jobs 80 hours a week then you can't complain about housing because you aren't putting in the work like we did.

Not a hot hiker

How do all these girls on instagram manage to take selfies of themselves mid-hike where they look flawless and model-like? I always feel and look so disgusting during a hike that the last thing I want is for my photo to be taken...plus I'd rather focus on the scenery, not myself.

Modern day minstrel show

I'm watching the new Pine Sol commercial where a black woman is dancing around with a mop while cleaning her house. Why is that a large percentage of times when they have black people in commercials they are always dancing and or singing. Don't people find this offensive in 2018?

Testing

Rather fed up with the subject/object thing that happens in dating. It's like we spend so much time testing each other as subjects, of some worth or something, we forget to enjoy the experience of being with the other.

Dating apps suck

People keep saying dating apps are easy if you're a woman, but that has not been the case for me. Sure, I match with a number of guys. But they don't message or respond! I even try to start conversations with something more interesting than "Hey, how's it going?" (because guy friends of mine have complained about lack of originality) and... crickets. Seriously, what does a girl have to do? And from what I've seen in the comments here, I know a lot of people are just going to say to get off to apps and meet people the old fashion way. Guys. I'm not locking myself in my room staring at my phone all day. I've been trying to meet people out in the real world too. Dating just sucks in general.

No friends

Where does one new meet friends in Vancouver anyway? Born and raised here. Me this weekend: "Anyone free to do _______ today?" Friend 1: I have a dinner to go to Friend 2: I'm with my boyfriend today Friend 3: my husband and I are visiting the parents Friend 4: I'm hanging with my boyfriend today Friend 5: working Friend 6, 7, 8: Hanging with my boyfriend today. I need new friends stat.

Renters of Vancouver, re: "Ray"

(I want to keep my Facebook account private so I'm posting my ROV comment here instead. Thanks for understanding!) __________________ I think this is actually a pretty common thing – some guy who say's he's a student (but weirdly can't produce any student ID) moves into a house full of students and, after a short period of time, stops paying rent, stops doing chores, starts acting all creepy and inappropriate, etc. These parasites are freeloaders who prey on young folks who are, for the most part, living outside of their parent's home for the first time. Take some advice from someone who's been there themselves! If you're going to rent a room to someone that you can't personally vouch for, you need to take some steps to protect yourself and your other roommates. First, ask to see – and get a photocopy of – their current, valid student ID. Then create a "sublet lease" that clearly states the terms of their rental agreement including move-in date, move-out date, amount of rent and utilities per month (or week), pay half a month's rent up front as a security deposit to be returned to them – with interest – at the end of their lease period (assuming that their rent/utilities are paid up and that their room is clean and in good repair), etc. Include a paragraph that states that they understand that this is a legal contract and that you will sue them in small claims court if the terms of the lease are violated – otherwise, you and your other roommates could be on the hook for their rent and their portion of the utilities, which can add up fast. The prospective renter should sign the 'sublet lease' and you (or whoever holds the lease on the property) should sign it as well in front of them. Provide them with a copy and keep one for yourself in a safe, off-site location. If they argue or have an issue with any of these conditions, tell them to find housing elsewhere. This will keep the freeloading parasites who seek out and prey on young university students out of your home!

Lessons from the corporate world

My main takeaways from working in the corporate world for a few years now: 1) Most middle managers have no management skills or training. 2) Apparently you do not need to be in any way smart or competent to be a middle manager either. More often than not, my managers have just gotten in the way more than they actually help. My job would be accomplished so much more easily if I didn't have someone constantly distracting me with useless meetings so they can feel busy, or swooping in to take credit for my work when they did absolutely nothing. My current manager is the worst. I don't even know how he got hired as a regular employee, let alone in a management role. He has no idea what he's talking about 99% of the time, but just spouts off random shit as fact, only for all of us to learn later that it's completely wrong, and we have to re-do everything. He literally does nothing, but then likes to claim our work as his own to the higher ups. I'm gonna make sure that whatever role I get after this is either a remote position or freelancing. I've had enough of useless morons breathing down my neck and making my life way harder than it has to be. I only want to manage myself from now on.

electoral reform pls

The BC Liberal oppostion is promoting their anti electoral reform dialogue and it looks tired as hell. Creating a better and more fair voting outcome for people in BC is a postive step for our democracy. I’d like to see interests less inclined to preserve dated standards and priveledges, and ones that are more open to new ideas. Also media need not refer to viewers and citizens as “regular people”, as life is not so much a pissing contest, mind your classisms please.

The Only Single 30 Year Old

I never thought of myself as someone desperate to be in a relationship. I've always been very independent, and happy to spend time on my own. In fact, I am quite picky about who I choose to let into my world, and would much rather be alone than with the wrong person. I used to have quite a few single or at least non-attached-at-the-hip-with-their-partner friends to hang out with as well. But lately, it seems like literally EVERY person I know is in a serious relationship but me. Every time I hang out in a group now it seems like I'm the only person there without a significant other. I've never been one to really care about this before, and I am of course happy for all of these people who seem to have found happiness. But it just makes me question whether I'm missing something. Is there something wrong with me? Maybe I've gotten too used to being on my own. Where are all these single people in their 30s like TV shows and movies would have you believe? Because that does not seem to be the case in my life, and it's making me feel like kind of a weirdo, as ashamed as I am to say it. Anyone else in the same boat?

I SAW YOU

smiling brunette at JJ Bean

We run into each other weekly. You ordered the last jalapeno muffin and I made a comment how I...

SAVAGE LOVE

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