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I was wrong

I thought 2018 was the toughest year on record for myself. I went through so much hurt, pain, falling down/getting up, that I thought it left me broken and jaded. But as I enter the Christmas holidays happy, healthy and financially stable, I realize that 2018 was the first year I truly faced all my problems head on. as I enter 2019... I missing something from my soul... all the baggage I've been carrying for years!

Please not again!

Call me paranoid, but my phone rang today with a number from a pay phone, and it literally made me feel sick. As soon as I answered, the caller hung up. I immediately flashed back to a time many years ago when I was stalked by a guy who became obsessed with me. He literally ruined my life at the time, and I actually had to sell my house and move, as well as leave the career that I’d worked so hard for. My life has never been the same since. He used to call me all the time from pay phones so that the calls couldn’t be traced. If it’s him again, and if by chance he’s reading this, all I have to say is that I meant what I said then, and I will fight to the death before I’ll ever let you near me again.


I had sex with a woman that thinks the earth is flat and that global warming is a hoax. She had a nice body though. I was just lonely and ashamed of myself and I guess the ends justify the means.

Holiday drama

So much drama this time of year. Be it at the company Christmas party, family politics, and the social scene. No, thanks. I’ve checked out and chosen not to participate.

I didn't think it'd hurt this much

I'm completely heartbroken. I have never felt this kind of sadness before, and I don't quite know what to do with myself. We were so good together. He made me inexplicably happy. He said this was the most healthy relationship he'd been in and he was falling in love with me too. But we had to end it because he never wanted or felt ready for a relationship. And it hurts. It hurts because everything was so perfect... everything except for the single most important bit of actually being wanted.

I miss my ex...

Christmas is always harder. Didn't have any real Christmas with family growing up, had single mom, no extended family. Happiest memories are the two real Christmases I got to share with her and her family. It was like on TV.

Best Before Date

11.06.17 - is tattooed on me, stage 4 cancer sucks. My last tattoo will be my expiry date, when that time draws near. For now, I will press on... eat, drink and be merry. I raise my glass to my friends, family and enemies who all played a key roll in my life, all 46 years. - Life would have been too boring.

All I Want For Christmas

It's to move into a pet friendly place and adopt or foster a couple of cats.

Tinder Dating in Vancouver as a Young Guy

Dating, like most things in life, isn't a lottery- it's practical actions and results. Take Tinder. As a girl, you're guaranteed to get approximately 100x more right swipes than a guy. This means girls pick which guy they talk to, not vice versa. So what does this mean for men? You need quality and quantity. Step 1: Get a good profile. Find all the best pictures with you in them. Look up criteria for good pictures - there are tons of web pages dedicated to it. Take the ones you're missing. Order matters. Step 2: Review your profile. Run it by your close guy friends, then your close girl friends (We're going to assume you have friends here. Heck, they can be online friends.) Girls know what girls want, and the girl you want to date is going to be similar to your friends 100% of the time, at least in some ways. Put in the time. Step 3: Get tinder gold. Why? because you're not just idly swiping right and looking at pictures, you want a Girlfriend. What's a bit of money if it means a chance at something real? Step 4: Settings. Make them as open as possible. Increase age range to slightly outside your comfort zone, widest area you're okay to meet someone. After all, you're still learning how to date - don't expect to meet the girl of your dreams next week! Real dating is NOT instant gratification. Step 5: swipe fast. Just swipe right as fast as you can, swipe left if it's an instant no. It's awful to unmatch people without saying anything, but guys don't really have a choice if they're looking to meet people on Tinder. Think of it as adding your name to the list of guys women can pick. Swiping keeps you active on tinder, and since you have gold you don't need to do it that often. No point reading a ton of profiles of people you will never meet (unless you're looking for inspiration for yours). Step 6: Once you match - Ask questions. Don't ACT interested, BE interested. There's someone on the other end of the phone you might want to meet, act like it! Be your most interesting self, match her tone/vibe/energy/prose/emoji style/punctuation (whatever you want to call it) and engage with her. She knows nothing about you, so don't tell her "work was good today", tell her you're really happy about making friends with a co-worker 2 weeks ago, or that you're excited to go see a movie tomorrow. Step 7: Asks! People usually decide if they could be interested in dating very quickly. If it's going well, ask for one of her insta/snapchat/phone number. You can always ask for the others later. Once you get her phone number, give yourself a 24hr window to ask her out. By now you should know where she might like to go, maybe give her a couple of options? BE INTERESTING. If she loves coffee, don't say Starbucks, find a coffee place you've never been to and see if there's a dessert place nearby. Have a plan. Or three! Step 8: Confirm the day of. I don't mean "are we still on?", I mean "How about I pick you up at 6:45 and we can bus/cab/ride over together". Always assume she's as excited as you are until you know different - be confident! And remember, you're doing this for yourself, so smile and have fun!


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