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This Annoys Me

I go on a date with a woman at a regular restaurant and my bills something like $20-$25 and her bills about $100 because she has to buy these expensive drinks with her food. Of course since I am the man I have to pay or I am never going to get a second date and be labelled cheap. What annoy me the most is I have never had a woman even pretend to make a grab at her purse when the bills comes its just expected I have to pay.

Hiding behind a sea of technology

There is this thing that keeos happening. I cannot get a word out. I cannot express a feeling or a thought. Because you sit there hidden behind your screen quietly deleting me at every turn. Why can’t you just leave me be? You won’t listen to my grievances so I share them anonymously out in the world. You won’t give me closure so I pour myself out to strangers for release. But, still, you control and manipulate and degrade me. Please, leave me be to heal and move on!

What a mess !

Uncertainty and fear as home life is flailing. In fact, the problems with the work of domestic life are so deep to the point of feeling lost. Phoniness reigns at work and it’s misery. Marriage is a losing battle of being judged and condemned, and while feeling guilty there's the realization of not feeling as much. Meanwhile, thoughts of how what makes one warm inside from the past reveals loose threads that can’t be let go of, and this realization is jarring because the source is outside of one's world. What a conundrum, huh? Anyone would feel crappy going through this alone.

Content Delivery

I say Netflix's selection looks like an old video rental store, but you don't even know what those were....

Dating in Vancouver isn't THAT hard

I've read so many posts about this by now, and I'm at the point where I just want to sit down and have conversations with these people. I want to see what they're doing, how they're presenting themselves, what's going on. I've been in three relationships in a year and a half. Yes, I'm a serial monogamist. I met two online, and my current one was through mutual friends. Two of these three men were homeowners, one spent more money to rent downtown than he would on a mortgage. They're all educated people with goals. My experiences online are that if you're patient, you'll go on plenty of dates (so long as you consider 1-2 per week plenty). I'm not an enormously pretty girl, and yes, I know it's easier for women, but I'm apparently charming enough that I get first dates and occasionally end up meeting people I'm into. I used OkCupid because I liked getting more info on people ahead of time. I wrote my profile in a way that people had good openers and immediately had stuff to talk about. They could gauge my values, intelligence level, interests, and sense of humour. Lots of very classically handsome men sent me a single message and then never contacted me again, probably because I'm not actually their type (I'm not polished, I could lose some weight, I'm really just averagely attractive). I put thought and effort into replies, quickly developed long conversations with people, and worked hard to assess their values before I met them. It helped. My girlfriends who don't use online dating say it's impossible to meet people. The men I know say the same. I get the impression that many of these people are: A) pickier with looks - I date attractive men, they're just all below 6' ;) B) not using the best photos C) not good at talking to strangers This isn't to say dating here isn't hard. It just isn't THAT hard. I have friends who do VERY well - both men and women - because they put in the effort. I have friends who have moved to places like NYC and Toronto and have had a much easier time getting dates, but are still single. I once explained to a girlfriend "how" I date, and she said, "oh, so upon actually try." Honestly, at this point, I'm tempted to just tell men to go get their friends to take some nice pictures of them (I did that for a couple friends and it's helped them enormously). All ya'll wondering, though, where the good men are, saying there aren't any here, look AROUND you. Vancouver is a terrible place to live. We're all poor, frustrated, and our political and social climate is toxic. This wealthy environment leaves people tired, frustrated, and lonely. But that doesn't mean there aren't decent men and women out there. I know because my friends and I have gone on dates with many of them. And in case anyone is wondering: I unmatched people who opened with "hey" and I didn't match with anyone who came off as jaded or bitter. But seriously. It's not THAT hard.

Mummy mummy!

Rents are so high here, everything so expensive, we have the right to cheap everything, we want to own a house before hitting 30... You sound like a whiny, feet-stomping teenager. When I was a young adult in this city 20 years ago I had 1-2 roommates because I could not afford a place of my own, I had to have two jobs to afford the things I wanted, and this place wasn't as big and international as it is now! Do your research, travel to similar cities and compare, or move to a small village; you don't deserve to live in this great city! You're a lazy, entitled whiner.


To the strong and able dude that keeps walking to the front of the line of the sardine-jammed #14 bus cutting everyone off INCLUDING a visually-impaired lady with a service dog: YOU SUCK. I don't know how you live with yourself. I hope that when you stop being strong and able, weasels like you sneak in front of you and steal your seat!

Online dating has

I’ve found my outlook on online dating has contributed to me feeling more awkward about asking people out in real life. I used to be bolder and I would just ask people out. I worked up the courage and just put it out there. Now I am a bit lazy and think if I want to date I’ll just go online.... almost in the way I think about shopping!?! I don’t think that’s healthy so I’m taking a break and trying to regain my confidence in asking people out when I meet them. Its a much slower approach, takes longer to find someone I have chemistry with but at least I know right away whether we click.

Sex surrogate?

My wife doesn't like/need sex very often. I don't want another relationship so I frequent the massage parlours. Its expensive but masturbation just isn't the same and I need the female touch. The only other option is a sex surrogate...does that even exist?

I always wondered if....

You were only a selfish jerk because you were an addict. After hanging out with you a few times sober one year later I realize that you are a selfish jerk by nature. I’m so happy I can finally let go and move on without any “what if’s”.

German and jewish

Can a practicing Jewish man date a German female no problem? I an willing to convert but his parents say its not the same. Can someone enlighten me??

After 10 yrs

You walked in to my workplace. I was working. Instant chemistry between you and i. I feel sorry for your girlfriend on 10 years is now your ex. That must have hurt hearing hes leaving you for me. you probably did nothing wrong-- but I came into his picture. Sorry.

I confess

I will stop buying anything made in China!!!!

Phone scammers

I’ve been getting a lot of unwanted phone calls from some guy on an automated tape speaking in Chinese. Same idiot, different phone numbers. I reported it to the cops but their excuse was that they “don’t trace calls.” How the hell can I get rid of these bottom feeding assholes once and for all?

Life’s hard when you own a home worth seven figures

I have zero sympathy for west side residents fighting increased property taxes . Owning a home worth $3 million plus is a form of wealth - what it gives people is choice, choice that renters and others who are struggling don’t have.