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Modern day minstrel show

I'm watching the new Pine Sol commercial where a black woman is dancing around with a mop while cleaning her house. Why is that a large percentage of times when they have black people in commercials they are always dancing and or singing. Don't people find this offensive in 2018?


Rather fed up with the subject/object thing that happens in dating. It's like we spend so much time testing each other as subjects, of some worth or something, we forget to enjoy the experience of being with the other.

Dating apps suck

People keep saying dating apps are easy if you're a woman, but that has not been the case for me. Sure, I match with a number of guys. But they don't message or respond! I even try to start conversations with something more interesting than "Hey, how's it going?" (because guy friends of mine have complained about lack of originality) and... crickets. Seriously, what does a girl have to do? And from what I've seen in the comments here, I know a lot of people are just going to say to get off to apps and meet people the old fashion way. Guys. I'm not locking myself in my room staring at my phone all day. I've been trying to meet people out in the real world too. Dating just sucks in general.

No friends

Where does one new meet friends in Vancouver anyway? Born and raised here. Me this weekend: "Anyone free to do _______ today?" Friend 1: I have a dinner to go to Friend 2: I'm with my boyfriend today Friend 3: my husband and I are visiting the parents Friend 4: I'm hanging with my boyfriend today Friend 5: working Friend 6, 7, 8: Hanging with my boyfriend today. I need new friends stat.

Renters of Vancouver, re: "Ray"

(I want to keep my Facebook account private so I'm posting my ROV comment here instead. Thanks for understanding!) __________________ I think this is actually a pretty common thing – some guy who say's he's a student (but weirdly can't produce any student ID) moves into a house full of students and, after a short period of time, stops paying rent, stops doing chores, starts acting all creepy and inappropriate, etc. These parasites are freeloaders who prey on young folks who are, for the most part, living outside of their parent's home for the first time. Take some advice from someone who's been there themselves! If you're going to rent a room to someone that you can't personally vouch for, you need to take some steps to protect yourself and your other roommates. First, ask to see – and get a photocopy of – their current, valid student ID. Then create a "sublet lease" that clearly states the terms of their rental agreement including move-in date, move-out date, amount of rent and utilities per month (or week), pay half a month's rent up front as a security deposit to be returned to them – with interest – at the end of their lease period (assuming that their rent/utilities are paid up and that their room is clean and in good repair), etc. Include a paragraph that states that they understand that this is a legal contract and that you will sue them in small claims court if the terms of the lease are violated – otherwise, you and your other roommates could be on the hook for their rent and their portion of the utilities, which can add up fast. The prospective renter should sign the 'sublet lease' and you (or whoever holds the lease on the property) should sign it as well in front of them. Provide them with a copy and keep one for yourself in a safe, off-site location. If they argue or have an issue with any of these conditions, tell them to find housing elsewhere. This will keep the freeloading parasites who seek out and prey on young university students out of your home!

Lessons from the corporate world

My main takeaways from working in the corporate world for a few years now: 1) Most middle managers have no management skills or training. 2) Apparently you do not need to be in any way smart or competent to be a middle manager either. More often than not, my managers have just gotten in the way more than they actually help. My job would be accomplished so much more easily if I didn't have someone constantly distracting me with useless meetings so they can feel busy, or swooping in to take credit for my work when they did absolutely nothing. My current manager is the worst. I don't even know how he got hired as a regular employee, let alone in a management role. He has no idea what he's talking about 99% of the time, but just spouts off random shit as fact, only for all of us to learn later that it's completely wrong, and we have to re-do everything. He literally does nothing, but then likes to claim our work as his own to the higher ups. I'm gonna make sure that whatever role I get after this is either a remote position or freelancing. I've had enough of useless morons breathing down my neck and making my life way harder than it has to be. I only want to manage myself from now on.

electoral reform pls

The BC Liberal oppostion is promoting their anti electoral reform dialogue and it looks tired as hell. Creating a better and more fair voting outcome for people in BC is a postive step for our democracy. I’d like to see interests less inclined to preserve dated standards and priveledges, and ones that are more open to new ideas. Also media need not refer to viewers and citizens as “regular people”, as life is not so much a pissing contest, mind your classisms please.

The Only Single 30 Year Old

I never thought of myself as someone desperate to be in a relationship. I've always been very independent, and happy to spend time on my own. In fact, I am quite picky about who I choose to let into my world, and would much rather be alone than with the wrong person. I used to have quite a few single or at least non-attached-at-the-hip-with-their-partner friends to hang out with as well. But lately, it seems like literally EVERY person I know is in a serious relationship but me. Every time I hang out in a group now it seems like I'm the only person there without a significant other. I've never been one to really care about this before, and I am of course happy for all of these people who seem to have found happiness. But it just makes me question whether I'm missing something. Is there something wrong with me? Maybe I've gotten too used to being on my own. Where are all these single people in their 30s like TV shows and movies would have you believe? Because that does not seem to be the case in my life, and it's making me feel like kind of a weirdo, as ashamed as I am to say it. Anyone else in the same boat?

If I could do it again

I would have had kids in my 20s and been like "fuck my career". Career just ruins you, mentally, and you have less time for the things that matter. I listened to the kool-aid, which was to go to university, don't have kids, and concentrate on a career. Worst idea, ever. I think that people can see that listening to the government and being docile loyal political servants to them is not working out for them.

Too Hardcore

Tried writing my story and experience with you here and I didn't get past the editor. Too many hardcore themes I think. The abridged version: It's been three weeks that I feel you're safe again. Maybe not in my arms, but I know it my heart; it's a feeling.

My dick hurts

From being hungover and masturbating all day while nursing my sorrows, in bed. Has anyone else gone through this before? Is this something that happens to women as well?

In SJW fashion, ugh.

I finally bought an iPhone. I was walking through a Granville Street protest by chance. I felt very hip a la "faux save the planet".

I feel like a drunk

When I wake up hungover on Saturday and Sunday. What a waste of a day.


Unfortunately I take transit everywhere. While on the bus I always look out the windows if I can to see what’s happening on the street. The warmer months bring scantily clad women out which gives my eyes some candy to look at while I whizz by them. Do you know what I see other people doing on the bus? They have their head buried in their phones and miss all of these opportunities to stimulate themselves. I’m so glad I’m not one of them.


95 Mornings

You take the 95 to downtown in the mornings, head to toe black always, skinny black pants, black...


Savage Love: Micro-infidelities and other toxic concepts

We are living in a culture that defines absolutely everything as cheating.