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Mummy mummy!

Rents are so high here, everything so expensive, we have the right to cheap everything, we want to own a house before hitting 30... You sound like a whiny, feet-stomping teenager. When I was a young adult in this city 20 years ago I had 1-2 roommates because I could not afford a place of my own, I had to have two jobs to afford the things I wanted, and this place wasn't as big and international as it is now! Do your research, travel to similar cities and compare, or move to a small village; you don't deserve to live in this great city! You're a lazy, entitled whiner.


To the strong and able dude that keeps walking to the front of the line of the sardine-jammed #14 bus cutting everyone off INCLUDING a visually-impaired lady with a service dog: YOU SUCK. I don't know how you live with yourself. I hope that when you stop being strong and able, weasels like you sneak in front of you and steal your seat!

Online dating has

I’ve found my outlook on online dating has contributed to me feeling more awkward about asking people out in real life. I used to be bolder and I would just ask people out. I worked up the courage and just put it out there. Now I am a bit lazy and think if I want to date I’ll just go online.... almost in the way I think about shopping!?! I don’t think that’s healthy so I’m taking a break and trying to regain my confidence in asking people out when I meet them. Its a much slower approach, takes longer to find someone I have chemistry with but at least I know right away whether we click.

Sex surrogate?

My wife doesn't like/need sex very often. I don't want another relationship so I frequent the massage parlours. Its expensive but masturbation just isn't the same and I need the female touch. The only other option is a sex surrogate...does that even exist?

I always wondered if....

You were only a selfish jerk because you were an addict. After hanging out with you a few times sober one year later I realize that you are a selfish jerk by nature. I’m so happy I can finally let go and move on without any “what if’s”.

After 10 yrs

You walked in to my workplace. I was working. Instant chemistry between you and i. I feel sorry for your girlfriend on 10 years is now your ex. That must have hurt hearing hes leaving you for me. you probably did nothing wrong-- but I came into his picture. Sorry.

Phone scammers

I’ve been getting a lot of unwanted phone calls from some guy on an automated tape speaking in Chinese. Same idiot, different phone numbers. I reported it to the cops but their excuse was that they “don’t trace calls.” How the hell can I get rid of these bottom feeding assholes once and for all?

Life’s hard when you own a home worth seven figures

I have zero sympathy for west side residents fighting increased property taxes . Owning a home worth $3 million plus is a form of wealth - what it gives people is choice, choice that renters and others who are struggling don’t have.

My ex wouldnt let me alone

My ex was very physically abusive to me on 7 occasions during our 4 year relationship. During one of those incidents I thought for sure she would kill me, and I still suffer panic attacks to this day (I'm saving up for counselling, but don't have the funds yet.) That worst incident happened 2 years ago. I've since moved on and married a very kind foreign woman who I love very much. The issue is that this ex has been telling lies about me to mutual friends: that I stole from her when we moved out, that I cheated on her, that *I* was the abusive one (that one makes me furious more than any of the other accusations.) Slowly our mutual friends have been dropping me because she's been giving them ultimatums - her or me. It hurts, and it's making me feel anger when I just want to leave this in the past. For the record, I haven't contacted her since our break up and just want to move on. But now I know what those men who come forward about abuse years later feel like. I didn't file a police report any of the times she beat me. I don't have any photographic evidence, because at the time my first priority was to protect her and her reputation in her small-ish island community. But I have emails disclosing the abuse to a couple of trusted friends, a record of what happened. I'm so tempted to come forward, if not just to make her stop trying to slander me. But I'm worried, because of how men are treated nowadays in metoo era who come forward years later. They aren't believed, they are seen as just trying to destroy a woman. And my intentions right now are being driven by anger...I'm at a loss. I also worry about any of his future partners being attacked by her, but I can't control that. Sorry this is a jumbly mess, I just needed to get this all out of my head anonymously, thanks for listening.


Years ago my wife and I spent Christmas Day in a church basement in downtown Vancouver. We don’t go to church but were surrounded by quite a number of parishoners. As Christmas morning turned to lunch we started to feed homeless street people. As many of the guys showed up they stood warily in the doorway surveying the safety of the room and whether they felt they could stay. There were a couple of senior women from the church who would zip over to them, give them a big loving hug oblivious to their filthy clothing and a kiss on their dirty, sketchy looking cheeks. These guys were hardened to the life on the street, most were dirty, smelled, and just looked plain evil to someone like me who grew up in a super functional, priveleged world. As they had a big hug and kiss, there were a number of the guys who broke into tears. They told me that this is the only hug and kiss they got all year. Stop and let that sink in. I still get misty thinking about it after all these years. It changed the trajectory of my selfishness. Those old ladies are angels and I only hope we can all learn from them. Cost them nothing, but that transaction was priceless. Let’s think about that this year....all year.

Vancouver Dating

So drained. Why is it so hard here in Vancouver. All my international friends find it hard as well. I've lived here 5 years and am still single. This would never be the case back home. Online dating, omg what's with the 'one word' replies back? Come on and make an effort (I am). It is true: dating online and using dating apps has desensitized us from the standards we should uphold. I'm not feeling sorry for myself. I will continue, just pissed off. Agh.... Vancouver, you need to change your attitude. If you do, I promise you’ll find something – and it will be big.


I'm someone who commits to what he does. So in these last few days before my life changes forever I have been thinking about us - the us that was never an us. I think you're great and I wish I had understood you and known how to talk to you. Goodbye.

Business Unplan

As a consumer, I'm not going to bring my own bottle to a brewpub that charges more than a Cold Beer & Wine Store (those are unreasonably expensive to begin with) for their beer, no matter how good it is.

I love Tegan and Sara

Seen them live a couple of times and own a bunch of their records.I simply admire their talent and their beauty.This coming from a 50ish year old straight white male who's always tried to support the LGBTQ community since way before it's been called that. I've had lots of Gay friends and frequented gay friendly establishments and supported gay artists. Don't judge.

Friends with my crush

A few months ago I got the courage to finally become friends with the guy who I've always liked alot who is also my coworker. Based on some of the comments he's made lately, I don't think he'll ever like me as more than a friend and that makes me really sad. I shouldn't have become friends with someone who I am interested in. I might tell him how I feel once we are not coworkers anymore but I am not sure since he might tell other people we know about it and things will be awkward. He is an awesome, hilarious, caring person and I enjoyed the time we knew each other so far. I can't fall asleep because this is weighing me down. For now I will keep acting normal around him. Any advice?