So much drama this time of year. Be it at the company Christmas party, family politics, and the social scene. No, thanks. I’ve checked out and chosen not to participate.
I'm completely heartbroken. I have never felt this kind of sadness before, and I don't quite know what to do with myself. We were so good together. He made me inexplicably happy. He said this was the most healthy relationship he'd been in and he was falling in love with me too. But we had to end it because he never wanted or felt ready for a relationship. And it hurts. It hurts because everything was so perfect... everything except for the single most important bit of actually being wanted.
Christmas is always harder. Didn't have any real Christmas with family growing up, had single mom, no extended family. Happiest memories are the two real Christmases I got to share with her and her family. It was like on TV.
Criticize New West.
Well here’s a positive: I’m 61 and I feel young here.
11.06.17 - is tattooed on me, stage 4 cancer sucks. My last tattoo will be my expiry date, when that time draws near.
For now, I will press on... eat, drink and be merry.
I raise my glass to my friends, family and enemies who all played a key roll in my life, all 46 years. - Life would have been too boring.
It's to move into a pet friendly place and adopt or foster a couple of cats.
Dating, like most things in life, isn't a lottery- it's practical actions and results.
Take Tinder. As a girl, you're guaranteed to get approximately 100x more right swipes than a guy. This means girls pick which guy they talk to, not vice versa.
So what does this mean for men? You need quality and quantity.
Step 1: Get a good profile. Find all the best pictures with you in them. Look up criteria for good pictures - there are tons of web pages dedicated to it. Take the ones you're missing. Order matters.
Step 2: Review your profile. Run it by your close guy friends, then your close girl friends (We're going to assume you have friends here. Heck, they can be online friends.) Girls know what girls want, and the girl you want to date is going to be similar to your friends 100% of the time, at least in some ways. Put in the time.
Step 3: Get tinder gold. Why? because you're not just idly swiping right and looking at pictures, you want a Girlfriend. What's a bit of money if it means a chance at something real?
Step 4: Settings. Make them as open as possible. Increase age range to slightly outside your comfort zone, widest area you're okay to meet someone. After all, you're still learning how to date - don't expect to meet the girl of your dreams next week! Real dating is NOT instant gratification.
Step 5: swipe fast. Just swipe right as fast as you can, swipe left if it's an instant no. It's awful to unmatch people without saying anything, but guys don't really have a choice if they're looking to meet people on Tinder. Think of it as adding your name to the list of guys women can pick. Swiping keeps you active on tinder, and since you have gold you don't need to do it that often. No point reading a ton of profiles of people you will never meet (unless you're looking for inspiration for yours).
Step 6: Once you match - Ask questions. Don't ACT interested, BE interested. There's someone on the other end of the phone you might want to meet, act like it! Be your most interesting self, match her tone/vibe/energy/prose/emoji style/punctuation (whatever you want to call it) and engage with her. She knows nothing about you, so don't tell her "work was good today", tell her you're really happy about making friends with a co-worker 2 weeks ago, or that you're excited to go see a movie tomorrow.
Step 7: Asks! People usually decide if they could be interested in dating very quickly. If it's going well, ask for one of her insta/snapchat/phone number. You can always ask for the others later. Once you get her phone number, give yourself a 24hr window to ask her out. By now you should know where she might like to go, maybe give her a couple of options? BE INTERESTING. If she loves coffee, don't say Starbucks, find a coffee place you've never been to and see if there's a dessert place nearby. Have a plan. Or three!
Step 8: Confirm the day of. I don't mean "are we still on?", I mean "How about I pick you up at 6:45 and we can bus/cab/ride over together". Always assume she's as excited as you are until you know different - be confident! And remember, you're doing this for yourself, so smile and have fun!
Honest thought from a woman to women: you don’t look good or better or hot with fake eyelashes. It looks nasty and it’s not achieving what you think. You look crusty and like you’re hiding something. Like your feelings of worthlessness. And while you’re at it, stop drawing Instagram eyebrows on with a jiffy marker. Are you a stage actor where the bright lights will wash you out from your audience sitting 400 feet away from you? No you’re a cashier. And your terrible attempt at makeup is a catastrophe from 2 feet away. You would look better, and you’d be richer, if you stopped buying fake eyelashes and lash glue and jiffy markers for your face. You underestimate how already great you are, and ruin it with these expensive theatrics. Repeat after me: I don’t need the shit ton of makeup that society thinks I do. Yes honey, believe in yourself.
Birds and fish are eating it and dying. Stop wrapping your bananas and your milk cartons in it. Why? I don’t get it. Makes me furious.
I am very lonely. For years I thought all I wanted was to be left alone, that I am an introvert, that I don't need people. But I was wrong! I have spend my whole life pushing people away, and now when I wish I could call someone and do something social, I have no one.