Poop-induced orgasms are more common than you think

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      Straight female with a question. It’s about something that sometimes happens to me that I’ve never really told anyone about because it’s so weird and gross. It involves my bowel movements, so it’s not very sexy. (No offence to scat lovers, but I have zero interest in “poop play”.) After I have a normal bowel movement, I pull up my jeans. When I do that, the crotch seam presses on my clit as I begin to close the zipper, and I get what I can only describe as an intense mini-orgasm. This is directly related to the recent BM because it happens only after one. I find myself just standing there in the bathroom, holding my pants up with my hands frozen on the zipper, eyes half closed, gently pressing my jeans into my crotch while my clit just hammers out an unsolicited series of intense orgasmic spasms. It’s not really a full-on climax, rather just a dozen or so fast and strong fluttering contractions of pleasure right in my clit/pussy area. I find myself enjoying these post-poop-gasms when they happen, although it’s something I’ve kept to myself, for obvious reasons. I am not complaining. I am merely curious to know if you’ve ever heard of this and if you know why and how it happens. Do other people have similar experiences?

      > Possibly Odd Or Perhaps Curious Orgasm Mostly Enjoyed Regularly

      I shared your letter with Dr. Debby Herbenick, a research scientist at Indiana University, a sexual-health educator at the Kinsey Institute, and the author of Great in Bed and numerous books about sexuality.

      Herbenick’s short answer: “Genitals are magical, mysterious places of wonder.”

      And her much more satisfying long answer: “There are other documented cases of people having orgasms while pooping. Most are on Internet message boards, but some have made it into the medical and scientific literature. ‘Defecation-induced orgasms’ seem to be more common than orgasms from peeing, but both kinds happen.”

      Yes, yes: but why and how do defecation-induced orgasms happen?

      “It’s not entirely clear, but here are some possibilities,” said Herbenick. “The pelvic nerve—which is one orgasmic pathway—links up to not only the vagina and cervix but also the rectum and bladder. Another possibility is something called nerve ‘crosstalk’. In essence, the genital and excretory parts are smooshed closely together, and some nerves (like the pelvic nerve) service more than one part. Thus, feelings and messages carried in the nerves can get a little muddled. For example, some people can have vaginal pain from bladder problems. Similarly, people describe genital orgasms from stimulation of nearby parts, and nerve crosstalk is thought to be part of that.” (Want to shut up an “intelligent design” creationist? Ask them to defend the ill-advised, none-too-intelligent smooshing together of our excretory and reproductive systems—after making them google “obstetric fistula”.)

      “POOPCOMER doesn’t have to like the fact that she orgasms from pooping,” said Herbenick, “but it’s better than the opposite scenario: unintentionally pooping during orgasm. That also happens.”

      Follow Herbenick on Twitter at www.twitter.com/DebbyHerbenick/.

      You always take questions from BDSMers and cuckolds and other hard-core sexers, but will you take mine? I plead with you! Won’t you please offer some advice for me, a simple heterosexual girl having problems with her heterosexual male? My boyfriend always closes and locks the door behind him when he pees. It hurts my feelings! Being a part of his pissing experience would turn me on and arouse me! He claims he does this because he is pee shy. But he pees in public restrooms in front of other men! So if he knows that I like it, and if the issue isn’t about being pee shy, then why can’t he pee in front of me?!? Why is he “no girls allowed” about this? I would be grateful for your advice on how to get him to relax with his peeing moments a little more because I’m bored. Thanks!

      > Personally Insulted Since Sexy Entrance Denied

      You’re just a simple heterosexual girl who wants to be part of her boyfriend’s “pissing experience” because that would turn you on—nothing kinky or hard-core about that, no sir. You’re just after some old-fashioned, all-American, plain-vanilla voyeuristic piss play.

      I’m not sure there’s anything I could say here that would persuade your boyfriend to include you in his pissing experience. If knowing that it would make his piss-freak girlfriend insanely horny doesn’t motivate a guy to unlock the door and let her watch, PISSED, he’s unlikely to be convinced by some gay dude with an advice column. (But just in case: hey, PISSED’s BF! Open the damn door!) So if watching your boyfriend piss is really that important to you, PISSED, you’ll have to get a new boyfriend or start following the one you’ve got into public restrooms.

      Long-time reader, first-time letter writer. My 13-year-old stepson leaves his spooch on the goddamn toilet seat. How do I tell him to clean up after himself? I don’t know how he gets it on the toilet seat! Logistically, it baffles me!

      > Step-Parent Ain’t Not Kleaning Spooch

      That word you keep using—spooch—I don’t think it means what you think it means. Spooch is not slang for ejaculate, SPANKS, but it could be the world’s worst name for a dog. No, no, no: the word you want is spooge. And I don’t think your sign-off means what you think it means, either. Putting a not after that ungrammatical ain’t means you’re anxious to clean your stepson’s spooge off that goddamn toilet seat.

      On to your questions…

      Logistics: your stepson faces the toilet seat as he would when he pees and has himself a wank. He thinks he’s destroying the evidence when he flushes, SPANKS, but he’s obviously missing the drop or two that land on the toilet seat. Teenage boys are not famous for their attention to detail or for cleaning up after themselves. Replacing your white toilet seat with a black one might help your stepson notice that flushing isn’t enough.

      Telling him to clean up after himself: your stepson’s father should have a talk with him. “You’re making a mess of the toilet seat,” his dad should say. “Put the seat up and wipe it off when you’re through.” If your stepson protests that he’s careful when he pees, his dad should tell him that he’s not talking about piss. That poor kid will be so mortified that he’ll blow loads out the window before he masturbates in the bathroom again.

      I need your help. I’m a 26-year-old straight girl and I’ve been dating this great guy for a few months. Our sex life is really satisfying/fun/adventurous, due in no small part to the fact that he has a lot of kinks. He has a thing for scat, though, and that has thrown me for a loop. He doesn’t expect me to engage in poop play, but I know he watches this kind of porn sometimes and it freaks me out. Would you break up with someone due to one extremely squicky kink?

      > So Not Into Poop

      I would and I have.

      IMPORTANT NOTE: A lowly, officious, and quite-pleased-with-herself copy-editor has gleefully informed me that Urban Dictionary defines spooch as “semen” or “a man’s climax”. While I have the utmost respect for the modern-day Samuel Johnsons at Urban Dictionary, I refuse to acknowledge spooch as a synonym for semen or the male climax.





      Mar 9, 2014 at 2:29pm

      I'm a nurse, and Dr. Herbenick's explanations make sense regarding poop-induced orgasms. I experience something similar to the OP, but when I'm passing a hard stool. Many nurses who do hospital work hold off their bathroom needs until end of shift. One result of this is a hard poop. As the poop comes out it stretches the anus and puts pressure in the pelvic region. I experience several of these clit spasms during a bowel movement, more so when I'm relaxing after straining and the poop is not moving. The spasms are quite intense, and enjoyable. I also have not talked about it except here as it is a rather private experience that happens during a not so pleasant to discuss bodily function. I've heard it said that sometimes a bowel movement can feel so good when its happening, and maybe this has something to do with it. I haven't thought about it until now, but I do look forward to my end of shift toilet time because it is usually quite enjoyable in a weird way.


      Mar 15, 2014 at 9:23am

      I thought I would post replies to the other two questions as well.

      Regarding watching your boyfriend pee, how about offering to have him watch you pee. That might break the ice a bit. There is certainly an arousal factor from watching someone of the opposite sex pee since the urine exits from the genital region.

      Regarding the 13 year old stepson who masturbates, perhaps doing this while he showers might be helpful. For women, the three most often used places to masturbate are the shower, the toilet (as my above comment alluded to) and the bed. Another possibility is to use a wash cloth or paper towel to catch the semen. When I first started my nursing career out of college a few years ago there was a male patient, about my age, who was bed-ridden for a few days. We were pretty friendly while he was there and one time he admitted to me, and was very embarrassed to ask, but he was horny and needed to masturbate but wasn't sure how to do this in the hospital bed. It caught me off guard at first, but I suggested using a washcloth. I left the room, he did his thing and I later took it from him and placed it in the laundry, knowing full well what was contained in the washcloth. So that is what gave me the idea to suggest that your stepson could perhaps use a similar approach.

      delia sommerville

      Oct 30, 2014 at 8:47pm

      I tend to get his as well. I finger my bum to complete and intensify the orgasm

      OMG... Me too!! Lol

      Feb 5, 2015 at 11:46am

      Yup, I don't think i've ever shared this with anyone else either before!? But today I found myself in the very same position...again! And it obviously doesn't happen often enough, but sometimes when I'm in the bathroom & stuck on the toilet for far too long, I too have some of THE MOST AMAZING sensations that can only be described as an orgasm!!! This experience today is actually what brought me to this site, in hopes of finding out whether or not I'm crazy and the only one out there that is experiencing such an "episode"!? Lol. It's definitely not something that I talk about with anyone (especially since it is something having to do with pooping!?) but I've been very curious as to why this is happening to me!? I'm DEFINITELY NOT COMPLAINING because it is always an amazing feeling of an all over warmth & "flushness" of sorts...then an intense tingling sensation in my anal area that leads to a throbbing of the clitoris!
      I had to find the answer to this question mainly because, when this happened to me today, I noticed immediately after walking out of the restroom & looking in the mirror, that my face & neck were completely flushed & red! Lol. It looked as though I were up to something in there (alone) then kinda laughed to myself…like I had some kinda secret!
      So all in all, I'd just like to thank the others that were kind enough to open up about something that most everyone is quite discreet about…as its nice to know that I'm not alone concerning this issue!


      Mar 9, 2015 at 9:42am

      Enjoy it, honey. You're blessed.

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