Savage Love

I kissed a boy and I didn't like it

By Dan Savage | February 8, 2012

His stubble and tongue turned me off. But do I tell my girlfriend?

Why canâ��t my kinky, submissive husband be honest about his online activities?

Why can’t my kinky, submissive husband be honest about his online activities?

By Dan Savage | February 1, 2012

I tie him up; I lock his dick up; I dress him up. All I ask in return is that he be honest with me about who he’s talking with online.

The time to tell your partner you're a virgin is certainly not during sex

By Dan Savage | January 25, 2012

I’m a virgin. It’s not that big a deal to me—it just hasn’t happened yet—but I was wondering if I should mention it to this guy.

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What do you do about BDSMers with a bad case of Youâ��re Doing It Wrong?

What do you do about BDSMers with a bad case of You’re Doing It Wrong?

By Dan Savage | January 18, 2012

YDIW is a social-skills disorder that members of the BDSM community are at particular risk of acquiring.

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The Republican presidential race is getting santorum everywhere

By Dan Savage | January 11, 2012

I hope there isn’t any santorum on the GOP presidential race when it pulls out of me—that would be so embarrassing!

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Stories from happy couples in nonmonogamous relationships

By Dan Savage | January 4, 2012

When I invited coupled people who’d had successful flings, affairs, three-ways, and swinging experiences to write in and share their stories, the response was overwhelming.

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Sometimes a degrading fantasy is just a fantasy

By Dan Savage | December 28, 2011

You’re not inferior, and you’re not alone. In fact, you have lots of horny soul mates out there.

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There's no way of knowing for sure when you get pregnant in a threesome

By Dan Savage | December 21, 2011

My husband and I fuck a "good friend" semiregularly without condoms. Now, I'm pregnant.

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I feel guilty about my spanking kink

By Dan Savage | December 14, 2011

In all my past relationships, spanking was light, playful, and consensual, but my girlfriend has zero interest in anything approaching fetish play.

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What's a chick to do with two dicks?

By Dan Savage | December 7, 2011

A loving husband gives his wife the green light to fuck an old flame who still has the hots for her.

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I'm a really kinky person, but I'm scared to break my hymen

By Dan Savage | November 30, 2011

I like anal a lot, but the thought of vaginal just doesn’t interest me, so I’ve never gone there.

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Am I a transphobe if I don't want to fuck trans women?

By Dan Savage | November 23, 2011

All my LGBTQA friends call me a transphobe because if I were truly on their side, sex with a MTF straight woman would be the same as sex with a cisgender straight woman.

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A blindfold is an inexperienced domâ��s best friend

A blindfold is an inexperienced dom’s best friend

By Dan Savage | November 16, 2011

You’ll feel much less self-conscious if he can’t see you fumbling with rope, suppressing a nervous giggle, or searching high and low for a mislaid key to the handcuffs.

Your sexual compatibility has nothing to do with God

By Dan Savage | November 9, 2011

Because you wound up married to a man with whom you’re sexually compatible despite not fucking him once or twice before marriage has nothing to do with being Christian.

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