for the first time at age 36. I'm female. People marry at all ages even some in their 70's. I remember being really discouraged and then all of a sudden it turned around. You might even end up marrying more than once, you have lots of time yet.

I am thinking positive thoughts just for you right now. That you get everything you need. Good and Bad.

How do I get a hold of you for a dinner date?

Don't call yourself "somewhat attractive". Confidence is sexy.

It's important to not tie your self-worth into being in a relationship or married. The moment you put things on a clock, you put a lot of unnecessary pressure on yourself. Comparing yourself to others is also a great way to make yourself miserable; especially when you're comparing their highlight reels to your unedited footage.

I think what you need to do is start loving yourself more. Be your own best friend. As a man that was afraid of intimacy for a long time, I found that things really turned around when I stopped beating myself up and loving myself for who I was, and healing the shame (I was taught to feel) about sex, relationships, finding women attractive, etc.

The reason? There were plenty of women that showed interest, but A) I didn't believe it. Or B) I misread it by assuming it wasn't possible. Or C) The anger and hurt I had drove away the rest.

Hope that helps. Happiness is everybody's birthright, and you deserve to be happy as well, and deserve someone who loves you for everything you are. In the meantime, just go easy on yourself, go out and have fun, maybe focus on some hobbies and self-improvement, and everything will fall into place. Hakuna matata, okay? You're gonna be just fine. :)

All the best,

-Kyle

P.S: None of this 'I'm somewhat attractive' nonsense. You are beautiful. You're all beautiful. Ignore the BS that society pushes on you girls about what makes someone beautiful/attractive. My girlfriend of two years once confided in me that she didn't think she was beautiful, and I- a grown man- cried my eyes out. Because that told me that she didn't feel like she was worthy of my love, even though I was so attracted to her in every sense of the word, and loved her so damn much. Know what I mean?

Is as easy as falling out of love...
watch your friends go through that?

Yeah...
Grass is always greener.

Google the science of love and put some real chemistry into the magic, get out there.

But living in reality is far more healthier. Not everyone is stunningly attractive, it's just a fact. Go to your local grocery store, the average person is quite ugly. Better to overlook your limitations rather that obsessing on them. Besides trying to be a 'cosmo girl' is setting the bar low for yourself. There's more to life than worrying about your hair or nails.

Kyle - you sound like a wonderful man. I hope the other poster is hurting and says she hates men reads what you wrote - it might help her immeasurably. Hmm...I might go suggest that.

Kyle!

Seriously, you seem like an incredible person. Stay wonderful.