Guilt
posted July 25th, 2014 at 1:58 PM
There's a girl at work that wears clothes to the office that would be inappropriately revealing at a bar. I finally took a photo of her wearing a particularly short white skirt and posted it on Facebook for my friends to see (and comment on - she's not a friend on FB and we don't have mutual friends). I feel bad for posting it. It's just her skirt - no identifying features - but it feels like cyberbulling because people from work know who it is and they're walking around the office whispering about her, but no one has said anything to her.
It is a really innapropriate skirt though
22 Comments
Post a CommentTurtle
Jul 25, 2014 at 2:23pm
Shouldn't it be up to your boss or company policy to decide what is appropriate and what isn't? and if you personally have a problem with what somebody else is wearing, either talk to your supervisor about it, or find another job (which you will probably have to do anyway after posting a picture of your co-worker on facebook). and obviously, the reason you did it is because you are either envious you cannot wear such a skirt yourself, or you are ashamed of your fantasies involving the above mentioned girl and skirt.
lemme guess
Jul 25, 2014 at 2:25pm
I'm thinking she's probably pretty and has a good body. I'm also guessing that you are neither of those things.
Honey, just because she can pull it off and you can't doesn't make it 'inappropriate'
Now why don't you stop being such an opinionated douche and go back to work and mind your own business.
NZ
Jul 25, 2014 at 2:38pm
Terrible. Total cyberbullying. Why would you do that? Who cares what she wears? Unless you're the boss and it's a threat to her job, it's none of your business.
I can see it
Jul 25, 2014 at 2:52pm
This is all going to end in tears. Either she sees the pic online somehow, or you get tagged as the trouble-maker, or someone rats you out, or something else.
But one thing's for sure, it ends badly ... unless you stop right now, delete the pic and never mention it or her fashion again. Ever.
dill pickle
Jul 25, 2014 at 3:18pm
That is bullying. You should feel bad. Now what are you going to do to fix it?
JMT
Jul 25, 2014 at 3:42pm
I would have to agree with the comments posted above, let your manager or supervisor make these decisions. I wish we had women that dressed inappropriately where I work. Dressing inappropriately for work is the best.
wow
Jul 25, 2014 at 3:45pm
you are all sorts of asshole on every single imaginable level.
A - it's totally bullying and shaming. You're passing your own judgments onto her of what is 'inappropriate'. And shouldn't be W-O-R-K-I-N-G too? At least, she's doing her job as oppose to stalking others
B - You're not only unprofessional but borderline narcissistic. You're trying to draw attention to YOURSELF and make it about you. AND posting questionable photos online.
C - Did I mentioned you're a complete asshole? That should be point A
Wow
Jul 25, 2014 at 3:45pm
Ya, way to go. You are a jerk and have got people gossiping and judging her.
Dear OP
Jul 25, 2014 at 4:16pm
You are right to feel bad, and you are indeed judging her. What is good is that
you recognize your mistake. What is important is what you decide to do next?
I would come clean and tell her what you did. Additionally, I would tell her how badly you feel, and most important of all...I would sincerely apologize.
You can't control how she will react, but think of this situation as test of your character. Will you pass, or will you fail?
Snackster
Jul 25, 2014 at 5:06pm
I for one sympathize with the OP. I bet all the "men" here saying it's cool would have a different attitude if it was a fat man in short shorts. If you work in an office and deal with customers it's part.of your job to look like a professional. Good for you for posting anonymously. I would have been more direct. Ex. "Whose birthday is it? The stripper is here! ", or "I lost my pen, is it possible it got sucked into your vagina? "
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