I have wanted to break up with my bf for quite a while but lacked the resources or stable mental health to do it. This past month, however, I gained some strength and had enough of his controlling/smothering ways and told him everything was finished--and no matter what I have to do to make ends meet, I will do it. Around the same time, he got laid off from his job (and lied to me about the circumstances, as well as the length...not the first time he's lied to me about his finances or life situation). He is now doing NOTHING. And we don't talk! He is incapable of reasonable discussion, and last time we attempted communication, all hell broke loose. I decided the best thing to do was not talk to him, because he is crazy. This middle-aged guy is home all the time, playing on the computer, doesn't even attempt to find an interim job, and is likely torturing me by just being around constantly. I'm sorry, this relationship was finished AGES ago, so the "grieving period" is not an excuse. What kind of man is this?! I have at least another month to go of dodging him in our one-bedroom apartment (he's on the couch, and dominating the living room with his laptop, so I stay away as much as I can and sleep in the bedroom) and I am seriously daydreaming about him killing himself. This parasitic asshole, who has smothered my life for years, has no reason to exist. I cannot believe a man of his age would resort to this: collecting UI, doing fuck-all, pouting and carrying on like a wounded teenager!!