Are you being abused? Are you abusive?

Then stay. You made a choice.

You know. The older I get (26 now) the more I question this marriage thing. People change. Some people get married after knowing each other for less than 6 months. Its crazy. I see some happy families but I swear I see 2-3 unhappy marriages for every one I see. It is scary.
What if your wife turns lazy? What if she lets her self go and turns into a bitch? It happens, I see it all the time. The father provides and gets ruled over by his wife and kids.
I think its better to be single than be trapped into a marriage you don't want to be in.

Did your thing, and you're living with the consequences... Do your thing, and LIVE with the consequences...

Get out ! It's going to be tough but you have to realize that you're not doing anybody any favours by trying to maintain the relationship. Trust me, the kids already know and, human nature being what it is, they tend to use the situation to their own advantage.Once you make the decision you'll find that you CAN provide for them and that your personal life will become much easier.
Don't expect gratitude from the kids, if you want that you'd better buy a dog.

Better for who? Not his two kids.

Suck it up. Be there for your kids.

I'm 36 and was in a common-law relationship with my ex for 12 years. We have 2 amazing kids together, but we couldn't make it work. We met in Vancouver and had an amazing time but left for Regina and then it all went to hell. I recently moved back to Vancouver and miss my kids so much, but i visit them and they also visit here and just love Vancouver and knew why i couldn't live in Regina anymore, let alone with my ex. It's not fun when you argue almost daily and never have any date nights anymore. Just because you’re parents doesn't mean you shouldn't go out as a couple anymore... Anyways, I’m much happier back home and my kids will live with me eventually. My boy will live with me next year and i have a new gf and everything has been awesome!! Took a couple of years to rebuild again, but boy was it worth it and much more happier than before :)
Whichever you choose, make sure you think long and hard before you do it because nothing will be the same once you do. I wish you luck and hope the best!

for a man, it is always better to not get married until late in life (after 40) and definitely dont marry anyone from here. Marry imports.

Choices are made. They are not terminal unless they REALLY are terminal.

Make another choice.

"Stay together for the kids." it's bullshit. Be an example of a healthy, happy human for your children. That means one that does what they think is right.

The most important thing is going to be making a civil and intelligent custody agreement and living arrangement for your kids.

I am not sure why you would be "crushed out of work" or why two parents cannot provide a reasonable life for your children?

Marriage. Hmmm.
With out respect there isn't much.

To "Rolf" around age 35 sperm quality starts to deteriorate, much as eggs do so people who want to start healthy families should ideally start them before they are 40. I have friends who married in their 20's, still a loving connected couple and great parents. In that time an acquaintance of mine's Mom has been married three times, twice after 40. I married an "import". I'm divorced.
Bang up advice, cave man.

If you fall in love my best advice is to wait at least five years or never get married at all. Nothing in guaranteed. You do the best you can with what you have and make changes and adjustments as necessary.

If you don't even have respect for your wife (yet alone any feelings for her), then you are creating a toxic environment for your whole family. It will definitely affect your kids a negative way, so if you really love them, fight for custody, and if you lose you can still pay alimony for them.

@Choices

Great attitude. Oh, I'll create some human beings which might become wonderful contributing citizens or pathetic violent offenders and drains on society. I don't give a fuck about the outcome really, I just didn't want to use a condom, so because my wife is making me pick up the garbage now and gained three pounds, I'm outtie.

If this is you, unmarried men, get a vasectomy. If this is what you're dating, women...uh... god it makes me sick.