the EXACT same way. I'm nearing 24-years-old, never had a boyfriend, the furthest I've gone with a guy has been kissing. And I know if most people were to know this they'd be shocked. You're not alone, love.

Thanks for sharing. Please know you are not the only one who feels this way.

" The truth is that I can't be in a physical relationship with anyone I don't have a deep connection with and essentially be in love with. When I say love I really mean it. It is not infatuation, superficial, or some cheap imitation off the shelf. Another way to put it is that for me to be physical with someone is like allowing them to touch my soul."

Casual sex is not all as great as is seems. I am amazed at how it can be treated these days in such a casual away. Just like having a chocolate donut and moving on. Sometimes women will bond and then get hurt more than they admit. I think you feel the real meaning of the depth of a true relationship. There are other people that feel this way. Church is one place to meet them or other spiritual gatherings, but this might not be your thing. Also, shy, nerdy guys sometimes are the still waters that run deep. Not the party guys at the bar. If the person really likes you, they will not mind taking the time and many will see you as having high value, especially if you chose them for something important.

Honey, there is nothing wrong with you. The gift of being female has many advantages. The cocktail of hormones that differ from men gives us heightened emotional capacity. Uber sensitivity. Being with a man is soul grabbing for all of us. Even men. Some more than others. Having meaningless sex feels intrusive for most. Some more than others.
Be proud that you have moral fortitude and resist getting your inner tramp on.
Life will deal you that box of chocolate. All sorts. Be a connoisseur.

I'm a guy who feels the same. I want nothing to do with the quick and easy crowd. I want serious meaning and commitment before any action goes down. I wouldn't want to be any other way even though I'm pretty much perma-single

you say you've never had a boyfriend. you do realize you can have a boyfriend without having sex with them? how are you going to find someone you have a deep connection with without trying to get to know people? i realize at your age, you might be asking a lot of someone to make them wait a long time before becoming physical but if those are you terms, then those are you terms.

i think you have grown attached to your loneliness. you are comfortable with your life and a part of you is afraid of actually meeting someone you have a such a deep connection with. being comfortable with being single is totally a good thing but growing attached to the idea that it's because only you have this curse of feeling is not.

anyway, this is just something to think about. perhaps i'm just projecting because i've been in a rut for awhile myself and feeling outside of the way "normal people" have relationships has start to become part of my identity which is something i feel i must fight against.

Maybe the two of you should post in I Saw You and connect somehow.

Well, you should ignore the skeevs telling you this is biological: it isn't. It is cultural. You've learned to be this way. I did, too.

What you'll find is that when you have a relationship, it makes you very easy to manipulate, because you're in or out---and if you're in, you're in for the long haul, because you only get in with people whose souls you have some idea about.

Thankfully, you're a chick, and most men are a bit more ethical about relationships than women, at least in my experience---if a man is going to lead a chick on, he tends to know he's doing it, but with women, this is not the case. All of my serious relationships have involved women leading me on, extracting whatever they could using promises of togetherness (unbounded, I might add you!) and then, whenever they got bored, well, suddenly everything they've said is meaningless and it's time for them to go on to the next one.

Good luck!

Vancouver's poor dating culture doesn't lend itself well to meeting people of the opposite sex. There is a lot that has been said about the infamous Vancouver women -- cold, superficial, vain, cliquey, snobby, etc. While you may not perfectly fit into that stereotype, your fellow Vancouver women do. But, I would argue that men are just as guilty of many things as well, which would understandably give pause to women like yourself.

There is no shortage of the "bro"-type douches who are only looking to have sex with as many women as they can, and subsequently discard the girl the next morning like a used condom. These disgusting frat boys view dating as a game -- an ongoing sexual conquest that is documented by filling up their little black books (of course, there are apps for that now) with names of all the women they’ve banged. The alternatives to these jocks are rather disappointing -- like the ones who are incapable of self-monitoring themselves, and reveal quickly themselves as desperate, creepy perverts. Then there are the socially-awkward geeks who play video games, read comic books or surf for porn instead of engaging in meaningful interaction with other real, breathing members of society. There are the career-minded men who are too busy schmoozing with upper management and fighting their way up the corporate ladder at work and generating revenue for their business to have any time for meaningful relationships with women (outside of one-night stands with call girls when they're away on their monthly business trips), and then there are the literally poor saps with almost all of their paltry incomes going to the hefty mortgage on their closet-sized downtown condos, who simply cannot afford a dinner date, because the bill for such a dinner exceeds their food budget for the month.

So to sum it up, the dating scene in Vancouver is hopeless. You might as well take a month off and go on a big backpacking trip overseas so that you can hook up with the men you meet along the way. At least this will give you plenty of fodder for your next GS confession, and you'll have something to gossip about at your next brunch with the girls.

Very awesome comment. Thank You.