A Sexless Man in a big City

I'm 32 and have lived in Vancouver for 6 years. I had never lived in a big city before and it took quite a bit of adjusting. I'm at that point now where I don't wanna hook up with a girl just for the fuck of it. I need to feel a connection. It's been 6 months since I had sex and everyday my soul dies a little bit more. I feel unbalanced without it and can't fully express myself. Yeah i can masturbate, but it doesn't compare....

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not alone

Jan 26, 2015 at 5:26am

Me too-32 from a small town! Except i'm a girl and 6 months has now turned into 2 1/2 yrs. I think the good news is spring is on it's way and people will start to come out of hibernation and start smiling again :)At least that's what I tell myself.

PS. I'm not fat

You.

Jan 26, 2015 at 7:58am

Are alone, but not alone.
We are out there, same as you, male and female (etc) 20's-80's and some of us just need a bit more than 'sloppy drunk sex on a Saturday night'.

Keep self loving and looking for a person you can connect with sexually and beyond. (But totally keep up the self loving. it makes it easier to deal with the ass-hats in traffic, douches in bars, and the general public... because a person is out there, wanting a bit of companionship, conversation and connection... just like you.)

Natty

Jan 26, 2015 at 9:27am

6 months isn't such a long time in the scheme of things. It is hard to be a sexual person, but also someone who believes that sex is an intimate act. If you're a stand-up guy, have faith your dry spell will end soon.

why

Jan 26, 2015 at 3:11pm

Why in the actual fuck do I never ever meet guys like you? Either they are total fucking douchebags or already taken. I just ended a self imposed dry spell for someone I thought was a decent human being. He proved me wrong at my own expense. Isn't that wonderful? You give me hope that I won't live a life of celibacy and loneliness. Now to find more men like you!

Advice from an old bro:

Jan 26, 2015 at 11:20pm

Use it or lose it young man. The lack of sex is making you jittery and desperate. And womenfolk can smell that desperation a mile off. It's a negative feedback loop of no sexy fun time for you.

But there is cure. Stop with the wanking for a spell and seek the services of your friendly neighborhood call girl. It's quasi legal, affordable and will take away that "haven't been laid in six months" look written all over your psyche. You'll be more relaxed, confident and will be in the mindset to meet that sweet small town gal stuck in the big city just like you.

Just remember to always wrap it up, don't make it a lifelong hobby and don't ever, EVER tell the new girlfriend about it. Good luck!

@ why and notalone

Jan 27, 2015 at 3:27pm

The guys you want don't often go out-tired of being run down,humiliated,turned down,being treated as an ATM by women,etc.

I know 50-60 guys-all of them great IMO I'd introduce them to my sister if she was single-with money and good jobs who have lost interest in dating/marriage etc.

How will you ever survive?

Jan 28, 2015 at 8:48pm

Oh no. 6 months without sex. Boohoo.

Women don't owe you sex! If you're not getting the sex/relationship you want, it's not because there's something wrong with the women here, there's something wrong with you.

Figure out what it is and you'll solve your problem.

Kitten

Oct 25, 2015 at 9:03pm

There's a lot I could say here, but instead I'll say this. You're not alone. she's out there waiting for you, and when you find her, it's going to be amazing. I give it..six months, tops.

Danny The Danster

Apr 29, 2019 at 1:01am

1. Just get an escort now and then
2. Grow a beard (essential in Vancouver)
3. Go out... A-HELLA-LOT
4. Do NOT shave your beard no matter what
5. Never leave the house horny (women under 40 think sex is bad, a sign of them giving men what they want) don't let them ever see you horny.
6. Maintain that beard. Don't worry about working out or stuff like that - they don't care.
7. Wear a dumb looking beanie that sits above your ears, and pants that are either rolled up to the end of your calves, or just cropped there.

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