I want in
posted April 29th, 2016 at 12:56 PM
Is it reasonable to ask someone you are interested in if they would be willing to open their presumably exclusive monogamous relationship so you can be with that person in some capacity?
To me that seems more honest and ethical than asking someone to cheat on their partner with you, which just seems skeevy and wrong. But I have zero experience in poly matters, so I really don't know.
This is mostly a hypothetical question.
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Post a CommentAnonymous
Apr 29, 2016 at 6:45pm
Whatever makes you believe people are reasonable, honest, or ethical?
For the most part people are 30 seconds away at all times from being screaming, totally insane lunatics in the deepest darkest asylum imaginable.
Poly here
Apr 30, 2016 at 12:14am
If they haven't already discussed it as a couple, probably not a good idea / you will end up breaking them up
Ask
Apr 30, 2016 at 8:25am
Just ask...
If they are monogamous you are not in.
If they are non-monogamous you may be in.
If they are monogamous but the one you are interested in is not... you may be in.
I would ask.
I was in an open marriage, NOT poly. It was about chemistry and connection, not collecting a body count. Everyone has their own thing.
Ask.
kayla
May 2, 2016 at 12:01am
mabey......unless children are involved ......that would be home wrecking..
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