Smoking pot in a basement?

"but the street pick up is not a Vancouver thing"

Why isn't it?

You're hungry but you ignore the one and only place to meet someone in a neutral setting that would require your courage and social skills to flourish instead of being bottled up and wondering.....

The lack of eye contact, flirting and smiles from women coupled with poor body language that says not available means not available.

I'm moving away in the spring because of the lack of available women.

Good luck.

that are shy are often at home playing video games or having a beer watching the game with their friends at home because they don't have the money to go out or impress a girl. They only meet people through their work. The players are at the bar.

I'm learning a new language so that I can leave Vancouver.

Unfortunately most Vancouverites have to work pretty darn hard to support themselves and do not have much of a life.

But on retrospect, I think that I should stop visiting the pub with my friends to free up more time. It would be nicer to spend that time forming an important relationship with the right woman.

You can find me in my apartment.

Instead of waiting for the guy to make the first move make the first move. Whatever you have been doing is not working. So do something different. You will find that men are interested in you but don't know how to approach you.

in restaurants, on busses, at open mics, in cafe's and at parties in Vancouver. I am not a super attractive woman but I just used to put myself out there. I am also very forward and would ask guys out too without hesitation if I thought they were interested. It goes both ways. Ask a guy out! It's fun:)

I'm an attractive woman, some say I'm hot. I've tried flirting or talking to men out in the world and it backfired each time. They ran away from me, which is strange because they were the ones seriously checking me out to begin with!

Men walking down the street seem to make a point of looking away and/or looking downright angry. I've given up and now I'm one of those women who shrinks away.

As a twenty-something Vancouver guy, I'd say the best bet for you meeting someone is through mutual friends, or activities you actually enjoy doing.

As for myself, I tend to be around used bookstores, cafes, or outside at the park or beach (when it's actually nice) when I'm not at a show or something with friends.

We're definitely open to meeting women by chance out here; it's more a case of many of us not approaching unless we get really strong signals, and there's a strong culture in Vancouver that tends to discourage approaching a girl that's not introduced to you, or at a bar. We mean well- honest. We just don't want to make you uncomfortable in case we've misread or something. That said, I don't really have a problem anymore with approaching at this point if there's been lots of eye contact and smiles. Life's too short.

Anyway, my advice as a Vancouver guy to Vancouver women? Try making the approach. Smile a lot and say 'Hi, I'm _____.' Don't be discouraged if he seems thrown off; I can virtually guarantee he's just pleasantly surprised and thinking "Is this actually happening?"

Who knows? If enough of you start approaching guys you find attractive in public, maybe the cultural fabric of Vancouver will change and become more open.

Best of luck! You'll find your sweetheart yet.

-Kyle

P.S: Yes, porn sucks.

Just to follow up, in my little group, I hear stories about guys women go out with, and guys who are "creeps." There are no stories about 'well, he was a nice guy, but, you know, I wasn't into him, so I let him down gently.' The consensus seems to be that such behavior is patriarchy-enforced "niceness" that "liberated women" don't need to engage in.

There are no "It was so flattering, but, you know, he just wasn't my type" stories---either they're worthy, or they're creeps, fairly black and white. Could just be the group I hang around, but so far I have hung around many groups, this seems to be the dominant view of 20-30something women in Vancouver. No ability to (a) take a compliment and (b) let a man down gently. Because, you know, treating men as though they are human beings with feelings, that's just something men train women to do for their own benefit.

After being treated like a rapist for having said "hello" to a woman, a guy gets the message!