Addiction is a possibility, but also a technicality. You know that he smokes pot day in and day out. What difference does it make if he's addicted or not? He's stoned all the time. Either that's an issue for you, or it isn't.

don't blame pot for him being a lazy pothead!

Going through the same thing

Personally I don't really want to be around someone who is chronically not fully present
But the person is amazing in other ways so I am still deciding if this is a deal breaker

He's on a slow train to nowhere. If you are ok w that then stay w him.

i'd rather be around him than ANYONE on any anti-depressant/anxiety medication. live and let live. you are probably also seeing him on his free time, so if thats what makes him happy....

Dated a chronic pot smoker for several years when I was in my 20s. He lit up a joint first thing in the morning, after dinner and right after sex. He was not present. I didn't think much of it at the time, being a non-serious 20 year old. But then he showed up to my birthday dinner stoned. He sat in front of me looking right through me, and I felt incredibly lonely and disappointed in him. He also spoke of all the great things he was going to do and be " one day".... and all I witnessed was him getting stoned, day in and day out. He eventually told me he wanted to get married.... and I couldn't see myself with anyone like him long term. He seemed incapable of life's challenges and I needed someone rock solid and strong. I ended the relationship because he was truly an addict. Yes, one can be addicted to pot, and it robs people of all their motivation and drive. I do not regret leaving this relationship in my 20s. So, OP, you have all the facts about this person already. Carefully consider whether you want a drug addict as a life partner and if you deserve someone who is all talk and no action.

Ugh. I think I dated a dozen like him, so I started refusing to be with any man who smokes pot. It sure made it difficult to date in Vancouver, but it kept my sanity. I don't care what they say. It's not natural as the THC content has become incredibly high (just like them). I've seen men sell their belongings to buy pot - it's an addiction and can cause mental illness (psychosis from use is up to 20%). Do yourself a favour and find someone present. It will be a gift to yourself in 2017. xo

Pot, while not as bad as chemical drugs, us a way to escape reality. Think about it . Imagine how more alive and engaged a person can be if they face their fears, exercise, travel, take risks and grow. It's way easier to hide behind pot. Any former pot smoker will tell you that they regret the wasted years, even if they seemed fun. People need to smarten up. Pot is not for everyone, there are consequences, it can exacerbate mental illness & schizophrenia (know your strains). It is also a legitimate way to relieve/ease pain but most people in their teens or 20's just get into using it for the distraction, entertainment, and excuse to subvert the pain and ordinariness of living. It seems fun or cool for a few years, but then people realize that life has been passing them by and rather than leaping boldly forward into interesting, complex, and fulfilling opportunities like other people, they are stuck with their selfish habits & they are stuck in an addiction with low self esteem. My friend who was a chronic user- a wonderful guy but with shitty self esteem and simply a lack of resources to move forward. Poverty, lack of resources, and stress trigger constant pot use. But it's still escape. You can't change your partner perhaps but you can change yourself and I think you should boldly leap into the life you deserve.

And I agree with you. It's something to maybe have on a Saturday night after all the chores are done and there is no need to make important decisions or use heavy machinery.

What are your compelling reasons to stay with this character, forever providing the exoskeleton he needs for an appearance of minimum functionality?

..........whoa...