Liking what is bad for you
posted January 19th, 2017 at 10:54 PM
I felt empowered after telling a man, who was clearly not for me, that I wasn't interested despite there being evidence of a physical connection. I kind of regret it now but I don't know why.
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Jan 20, 2017 at 2:03pm
why young lady.
Empowered
Jan 20, 2017 at 9:53pm
When a person cares about you, you have the power to hurt that person. If you do hurt them you have a momentary rush to your ego making you feel "empowered". You cared more about feeling empowered than you did about them. Try being a little more caring and compassionate in the future. Don't be an emotional parasite.
Just a thought...
Jan 21, 2017 at 3:04pm
Good for you for not falling for his looks when you know he's not for you. But, you may feel even more empowered if you are able to act on the physical attraction WITHOUT developing feelings for him. Isn't this what men do all the time?
You will be met by the right guy
Jan 22, 2017 at 12:03pm
You had a visceral response. That may have been inner wisdom. Women are deeply intelligent.
O.K.
Jan 22, 2017 at 2:51pm
I'm going to go out on a limb and say that your feeling of regret is just the 'doubting' side of your mind trying to get the best of you. Go back to that empowering feeling you had initially. Don't just think about it, feel it. That is likely more the truth of the matter but maybe you just lack a bit of confidence. Physical connection is great but not enough if someone is "clearly not for you". This may have represented a new level of choice for yourself (compared to past choices) and it's natural for that to feel a bit odd, but no need to doubt your resolve and why you chose 'not him'.
No regrets
Jan 22, 2017 at 4:23pm
that be the way :)
Physical connection?
Jan 22, 2017 at 6:58pm
Doesn't sound like you became physically involved with this guy. Is it just someone you physically lusted after?
haha
Jan 22, 2017 at 8:22pm
this is the story of my life. you regret it for a lot of reasons. For one, physical connections are intense. Often drug-like. When you turn one down, it's hard to shake. Second, you didn't see it through. When we don't see things through, we are programmed to then always wonder what would have/could have been. Third, we often do want what is bad for us. It's the classic story.
What if
Jan 23, 2017 at 11:39am
The op is not "young"?
So in other words
Jan 23, 2017 at 3:21pm
You freindzoned him
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