I get how it feels, but in a different sense, Me being a girl I'm alwasy around guys who just wanna have fun cuz they see me only as a big chested girl. I want something more, I have had the odd fling but like you said I end up fallling for them but getting hurt. You just need to not get involved with those girls cuz they cant see that obvs you are looking for something more and dont want to use them like a piece of meat. There arent to many guys like you out there, wanting to have something meaningful. You are def one in a million

Not all but many girls say they "are not looking" or "looking for anything serious" means that she is not LOOKING/SEARCHING for a relationship at the moment. But they also don't reject the idea if someone that fits them comes along, of course they'd settle down.
Obviously there are exceptions out there too.

Same thing for me with men. So you're not alone!

am in the same boat as you in my late 30s and every woman i have been with was a lying cheating whore and not to mention a fucking wacko

Type-o : I'm *not blaming you Vancouver girls

Just to play Devil's Advocate here, but have you considered your own actions? I recently declined a second date with a fellow because he spent all evening talking about his job (and even incorrectly pronounced the name of his workplace).

Food for thought.

be straight up, say you're looking for something more from the start and don't play their casual game

@ Natty

Of course I've considered my own actions and these things go way past first dates. I always hit it off with them and have an amazing time. I'm talking about girls that I feel that I connect with. @girl yes that's what I always think and I think that's why I get hurt because I'm hoping they are just saying that. I've just had a recent string of them and I'm starting to wonder.

if you don't like the fish you catch, fish in a different pond.

Find a way to be more busy and less available. Your heart is not a toy to given away lightly. At some point you have to see you are just hurting yourself. If you hold back a little bit it CAN be more attractive.