"...This is [something] I thought..."

The oldest needs to whine for attention, having less if it by comparison to a new baby and you nay have an easier time accessing ur parental hormones now that tbis is the second kid. Ur also probably doung the parenting thing better, second round.

Happens in almost every family. It's OK.

has a different personality, you relate to them in a different way. This doesn't mean you love them less.

There are clear favourites in every family. Parents do a horrible job in hiding favouritism. Luckily in 2 children households usually each parent has a different pick. I don't think your firstborn will grow up any worse for it.

How sad. I hope its not obvious to your poor child that you're distancing yourself from him for being a typical child.

Children whine, its a known fact. Maybe you should have done your basic parenting research on children and their behaviours before having one... or two in your case.

"Fix it?" You have a perfect healthy tiny child, which alone makes thousands or millions of people jealous but you feel yours needs to be fixed? How come we test to see if we are able to drive a vehicle but anybody can pop out a kid? Try accepting your little human for who and what they are. Heap unconditional love on the little half you and see what happens. Just curious if your dad "fixed" all your problems?

is in some trouble too. Whiner like his mom? Good luck with that marriage.

Maybe you are the problem.

If I thought I was behaving and thinking in an ideal way, it wouldn't be a confession, would it?

"Fix it?" / "Maybe you are the problem."

Absolutely. And "fix it" refers to the relationship with the child, not the child himself. They're people, complete with quirks.

"Whiner like his mom?"

We've all got our stuff, that we can't really see, but colours everything we do, like it's taped to the back of our heads. That's hers. I'm worried the kid is picking it up, and I'm not handling that problem well.